Confused Guy23 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 My ex broke up with me 3 weeks saying she needs to focus on her right now but wants to be with me in the future. She wants us to take a break and not talk to other people and work on being friends. I don't agree and start going out on dates. I find out that she's been seeing a guy from her job I think it's a rebound relationship. I tell her we should both move on and have no contact for a while maybe can be together in the future. She gets mad and says I thought this was just a break. If we're not in contact I'm deleting your number. What does this mean?
Amelie1980 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I've been on the receiving end of this. It means she met this guy a while back, instigated a break to date him and see if she prefers him and if she doesn't she has you waiting for her. She's hedging her bets. A break is just a break up. Dump her and keep dating. I wish I had dumped mine when he asked for a break. 2
Blanco Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 She just wants it all. If this new guy works out, then hey, she's got a friend in you. If it doesn't, she still either has a friend in you or the potential to come back for a relationship. Ghosting her jeopardizes this for her. She's not thinking about your feelings in this. She broke off the relationship. She's dating. You accepted both of those, but aren't giving in on the friendship one, so she's upset. Like I said, she wants it all. My ex is upset I don't want to talk to her at all, but she's still with the guy she's been with most of the year. I don't want to be with her anymore, but I'm still not comfortable being friends with her. No idea how things are with her and the guy, but I do think it bothers her that I have gone cold turkey in terms of communicating with her at all, because now she knows that if this relationship doesn't work out, she will need to go hunting instead of pulling me off the backburner.
Author Confused Guy23 Posted December 12, 2015 Author Posted December 12, 2015 You're probably right. She said they've only been in "involved" for a week but I know that's a lie. She also said if I'm going no contact then she's deleting my number and we'll never get back together. I don't get why she's mad she intiatated the break up.
Amelie1980 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 You're probably right. She said they've only been in "involved" for a week but I know that's a lie. She also said if I'm going no contact then she's deleting my number and we'll never get back together. I don't get why she's mad she intiatated the break up. She's mad as you won't be an option. Or maybe she is calling your bluff. Call hers and don't back down
Author Confused Guy23 Posted December 12, 2015 Author Posted December 12, 2015 She's mad as you won't be an option. Or maybe she is calling your bluff. Call hers and don't back down If she contacts me during NC what should I do?
kgcolonel Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 If she contacts me during NC what should I do? Don't respond in any way....it will be very tempting. Also, NC means blocking on FB and all other social media. This is not a tool to get the SO back, it is a tool to begin healing. A break up is a wound. To heal you need a bandage and NC is a barrier to protect from further injury and infection. Be strong and at the most important thing, do not look available or alone and needy in any way anywhere. This will help you heal.
Chronotrgr Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 In my opinion, if somebody breaks up with me then starts a relationship/fling, pretty much any kind of balls deep action with someone else, it's over for good, she's pissed off at you for dating, your pissed off with her for seeing this guy, I think it's time to split and go down the no contact road, it's a long road but its far better than the zig zag highway you'd be on by remaining in this messed up situation.
NopeNah Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Poor thing! I think you should stop dating and wait for her to decide if she wants you or him. Lol...yeah right!
Diezel Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 If she contacts me during NC what should I do? Block her number, delete. PROBLEM SOLVED.
sandylee1 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 She wants you as her back up plan. Don't be that... and for the girl/s you're dating..having an ex still hanging around is annoying. She broke up with you for a reason... that's reason enough for you to move on.
mammasita Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Block her number, delete. PROBLEM SOLVED. If you haven't done this ONE simple thing already OP.... Block her. DO.IT.NOW.
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