Nitachi Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 It has been almost 4 years since we broke up and yet after all these years my ex still creates fake Facebook accounts to stalk myself and family members. At first I had no idea who these random hot women were that would randomly invite me on Facebook but on closer inspection I noticed these accounts were only a few days, sometimes even hours, old. I only knew it was her when she made the mistake to use a profile picture that I have seen before on her laptop. Anyways she got engaged 6 weeks after the breakup and married a year later; I never called, texted or Facebook stalked her and removed myself from all social media for a good 2 years to focus on my career and myself. It freaks me out that she would still do this and makes me wonder if she is truly happy being married to the other guy. Although I have moved on and am in a wonderful relationship, I can't help wonder what her thoughts are and whether or not she is just curious or regretting her decision.
marky00 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 Well, i had lunch with an ex. we dated 10 years ago. She broke it off with me when she met another guy. We dated about 18 months and I treated her very well, saved her from suicide attempts for real. I requested a meeting to ask why she broke it off with me, to potentially help me figure out what went wrong with my recent failed relationship. Anyway after almost 10 years of NC, she admitted she facebook stalked me for years aggressively. I dint really ask her why... maybe I will one day. I also have an Ex from like 15 years ago who dumped me, I stayed NC from day 1 and she still tries to msg me on facebook... i have never replied back. Here's my take on the situation: 1) women don't like being hated by someone, even an Ex. They could possibly reach out years later on social media to make peace with you somehow. 2) They may not regret their decision but women unlike men value their past relationships more and tend to understand better the significance of those relationships. 3) Long-term I think its the dumpers who social media-stalk as they were never hurt. They made a decision and every once in a while they will check in when they wonder how things had been if the chose differently. 3
mightycpa Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 It has been almost 4 years since we broke up and yet after all these years my ex still creates fake Facebook accounts to stalk myself and family members. At first I had no idea who these random hot women were that would randomly invite me on Facebook but on closer inspection I noticed these accounts were only a few days, sometimes even hours, old. I only knew it was her when she made the mistake to use a profile picture that I have seen before on her laptop. Anyways she got engaged 6 weeks after the breakup and married a year later; I never called, texted or Facebook stalked her and removed myself from all social media for a good 2 years to focus on my career and myself. It freaks me out that she would still do this and makes me wonder if she is truly happy being married to the other guy. Although I have moved on and am in a wonderful relationship, I can't help wonder what her thoughts are and whether or not she is just curious or regretting her decision.Or if she'll show up with a knife or a snake or something. That's just weird. Maybe you should respond to one, get into a conversation, and then steer the conversation so that you can tell the story about your psycho ex, putting in some details that she won't miss. Then you can get to the bottom of this. 2
Amelie1980 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 Well, i had lunch with an ex. we dated 10 years ago. She broke it off with me when she met another guy. We dated about 18 months and I treated her very well, saved her from suicide attempts for real. I requested a meeting to ask why she broke it off with me, to potentially help me figure out what went wrong with my recent failed relationship. Anyway after almost 10 years of NC, she admitted she facebook stalked me for years aggressively. I dint really ask her why... maybe I will one day. I also have an Ex from like 15 years ago who dumped me, I stayed NC from day 1 and she still tries to msg me on facebook... i have never replied back. Here's my take on the situation: 1) women don't like being hated by someone, even an Ex. They could possibly reach out years later on social media to make peace with you somehow. 2) They may not regret their decision but women unlike men value their past relationships more and tend to understand better the significance of those relationships. 3) Long-term I think its the dumpers who social media-stalk as they were never hurt. They made a decision and every once in a while they will check in when they wonder how things had been if the chose differently. You should definitely ask her why she facebook stalked you, that is just weird. I dont know so much about women valuing more. One of my exes dumped me years ago, just married the one he cheated on me with. He blocked me on facebook when I caught him cheating and yet I kept seeing him pop up on my people you may know list and then he'd block me again. So I blocked him once and for all. One of my male friends told me he still thinks of a woman he didnt even try with 5-6 years ago. He wasnt interested in her at the time. He was interested in other woman whom he did pursue thinking she was the right one. But he was wrong. It didnt work out with the one he picked and he remained acquainted through friends with the one he didnt pick and he realised she was the right one. But it was too late as she had met someone by then. With dumpers in general they always have to ask if they made the right choice.
BC1980 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 Social media has made it easy to covertly check up on people. You can stalk away, and no one will be the wiser. You can learn quite a bit from social media, and I think it's made breakups way more difficult. Before FB, you had to really snoop around or ask mutual friends, which would be embarrassing. I think a lot of it is curiosity, but making fake accounts takes it to another level for sure.
Silver_star Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 It has been almost 4 years since we broke up and yet after all these years my ex still creates fake Facebook accounts to stalk myself and family members. At first I had no idea who these random hot women were that would randomly invite me on Facebook but on closer inspection I noticed these accounts were only a few days, sometimes even hours, old. I only knew it was her when she made the mistake to use a profile picture that I have seen before on her laptop. Anyways she got engaged 6 weeks after the breakup and married a year later; I never called, texted or Facebook stalked her and removed myself from all social media for a good 2 years to focus on my career and myself. It freaks me out that she would still do this and makes me wonder if she is truly happy being married to the other guy. Although I have moved on and am in a wonderful relationship, I can't help wonder what her thoughts are and whether or not she is just curious or regretting her decision. Who knows why people do the things they do? Whether or not she is truly happy being married is not your business. Unless of course you are still interested in rekindling something? Not wise to assume anything with her FB creeping. FB creeping is normal, and there are different levels of it that are unhealthy, but that's not your problem again, since she is at least attempting to do it anonymously. It's not like she straight out contacted you and told you she was unhappy. She could just be super curious. On the flip side of this I wonder if it would freak her out to know you still have enough interest in her to go to an online forum and ask people about her behaviors. You care enough about it to be here. You said that you are moved on and in a wonderful relationship? Most people who had moved on could simply roll their eyes, ignore their exes antics and not accept any strange friend requests and proceed with your wonderful new life.
sandylee1 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 She clearly has some distant interest in you. It could be regret and I really don't think she's 100% happy or she wouldn't do it. One BW that I met... told me she was looking up her ex on FB after her H cheated.... it was out of her thinking 'what if'. She didn't create all those profiles like your ex though. Maybe her life isn't all its cracked up to be.. but she can see you're doing pretty well. It's more than curiosity if she keeps doing it. Once or twice maybe.. but not this. I think the above poster (SS) made some unecessary comments.
makemineamac Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I personally cannot remember the last time - or any time I Facebook creeped. So calling it 'normal' might be true for some, but I don't think it's a healthy thing to do, especially at this kind of level. It's indicative of other things that are going on with her maybe. Who knows? But she's made it hard to ignore. And I think the poster is just trying to figure out why she is being so incessant doing this. That's why he is wondering about the marriage. That also sounds like a pretty normal question to be asking oneself when someone is being stalked, no? And, just one more thing, isn't it also a healthy thing to do, to come to a community that has the type of members that may be able to help you explain these types of behaviours? I think that's pretty normal. And I think the OP is just wondering whether she has questioned her decisions, that's all. I think that's just curiosity. I do agree with one of the other posters that it would be fun to start up a conversation with one of these 'people'.
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