blueman Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 ok so i am a 20yr old guy and i was at a friends house at a little get 2gether. I was sitting on the couch when the front door opens and in walks this gorgeous girl she says hi to everyone takes one look at me on the couch walks over introduces herself and asks me "so what's your story" . I was like i cant believe this chick is giving me the time of day. Now we chat a bit and she smiles alot and so do i we ended up hanging out at her place for a while that night with another mutual friend of ours named liz. At the end of the night she gets my # and this is where i am worried. I called her about say 5 times in the next 4 days or so not to mention we imed each other a bit. Now we set up a date and i took her to dinner and a movie, i know its the boring cliche thing to do but it was kinda not a very planned date and she also had to be out with her friends by 9 that night for her annual girls night out to the bars. so dinner goes great good convo. good food and we go to the movie and watch the new will ferrel movie "kicking and screaming" it goes great and halfway thought he movie i lean over and make sure she looks at me and when i get eye contact i tell her she has amazing eyes and looks beautiful tonight. She responds with a smile and whispers to me that i look very hot myself tonight and compliments me on my shirt. I lean in and we kissed or should i s made out for a bit then watched the movie she then leaned against me and i had my arm around her and we made out a bit more then she was playing with my hand for a bit then we made out some more. after the movie we drive to my place and i say goodnight we make out again. so i am stoked about the date and i am just worried about bugging her. i want to keep in touch but i need to know how to go about calling her and not bugging her. i mean this girl has guys attention all the time so i know I'm competing so what can i do to ensure her interest remains in me????????? thanks guys and gals and sorry for the long post
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Some advice: don't invest your heart or time too much into this. Why do I say this? One small thing caught my eye: the night of your date, she arranged for you to have her home by 9 in time to go out with her girl friends. Bad sign. Proceed with caution. Advice: don't call or IM her so much. Give it a week or so before you contact her again if you don't hear from her first. Call her once on say.. a Wednesday evening, to see if she wants to go out again on the weekend, and if she's not there, leave a message and see if she gets back to you. If she does, keep the conversation short and sweet. The talking you do, you will want to maximize in person and minimize on IM and the phone. If she ends a second date early like she did the first one, then you'll know that you are high enough on the priority list where she will allow you to worship her when she has time for you, but not high enough on her priority list where she wants to make time for you.
Marshbear Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Don't be to clingy or needy. Call her when you have something to talk about but don't just make a pest of yourself. Make sure she knows you have other activities going on and you're not just sitting around waiting on her. Keep you conversations short and make her want more by you breaking them off. If she is a looker then absolutely don't tell her to often how hot she is. She knows she is and gets hit on with this technique all the time. Be different and compliment her but don't over do it. Keep her interest by planning interesting dates and having good conversation and fun. Peace...
ConfusedInOC Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Click on the link in my siggy file: Love Must Be Tough. Find the rules of dating and you'll find some good advice.
sarah12 Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 I wouldn't put her off as much as the previous posters said, but this girl does sound like she's looking for someone who isn't your average joe. So that being said, you're going to have to kick some confidence in yourself. I'd call her a few days after the date, say 3 and mention you had a good time and you'd like to take her out again the next week. Make more definite plans only as you get closer to the 2nd date. If she is a looker then absolutely don't tell her to often how hot she is. She knows she is and gets hit on with this technique all the time. This is SO true. There's nothing more annoying than a guy who tells you 10 times in one night how hot you look. It makes us think that all you want to do is bang us, (even though we know subconsciously that you do want to bang us and most of the time we want to bang you too), we'd like to think that you like us for something more than sex. I'm more impressed when a guy compliments my intellect rather than a physical attribute.
Author blueman Posted June 1, 2005 Author Posted June 1, 2005 thanks to evryone that posted i think i will wait till thursday and if i get no call i will call her up to say hi and see if she wants to do something this weekend. i will update u all after the call so stay posted thanks again
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