IceIceBaby Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 What is everyone's opinions on couples who are very similar in so many ways. So much so, that they find communicating difficult and tend to argue often. I have a friend who is going through this right now. She asked me for advice, and that was hard for me seeing as I went through the exact situation with an ex. We had to end things because we argued so much. But I wasn't sure if I wanted to tell her that sort of advice. Basically they are both stubborn beyond belief. So neither wants to back down in an arguement. They have both said they would work on that, but of course have been unsuccesful. I know she is becoming extremely frustrated because she feels as if they argue all the time. When she tries to just speak with him, she says he gets defensive, then she shuts down, and it turns into a mess. The sad part is, otherwise they are a great couple and are good for each other in so many ways. In a way, I don't think there's anyone else who would put up with them. I know that's no reason for them to stay together, but it's sad because they do care about each other. Do you guys think it's possible for two people to be similar in those ways and still work? What do you do if both are ridiculously stubborn, and is the constant fighting/making up a recipe for disaster? I'd love your opinions for my friend, and for my past situation as well! Thanks!
alphamale Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by IceIceBaby Do you guys think it's possible for two people to be similar in those ways and still work? Hard to tell ICEICEBABEE....ususally a couple needs some similarities and some differences. I would not want to date myself What do you do if both are ridiculously stubborn, and is the constant fighting/making up a recipe for disaster? Depends on amt of fighting. A couple that never fights is abnormal and a couple that fights all the time is abnormal. We need a happy medium.
whichwayisup Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale I would not want to date myself If you did, I know what you'd try to do since you don't mind the - Oh wait, sorry, wrong section! That's a different thread somewhere else! The key is balance. To have things in common but also things that each of you like to do apart. Same goes with conversations and humour. My husband is more serious than I am. He has more of an uptight british humour (though he ain't a brit! ) but can also be silly at times...Me? Well, I'm the crazy, sick and twisted one in the relationship. We balance eachother out perfectly. If the love is there, the rest will just fall into place!
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