aandnluvsu Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 (edited) I met a guy on tinder, I'm 20 and hes 25. I never actually meet up with people on there but I was bored one night and have been in a dry spell for the last 2 years so I kinda wanted this guy to be a one night stand. I meet him at his place, we go eat, then go back and netflix and chill. I had every intention of not meeting up with him again, but being the girl I am I cant help but think hes cute and reply to his text when he texts me the next morning. long story short, by the first week ive met up with him ive gone to his place 4 times by now. At this point I’m like what am I doing, this is too much time to be spending with just a **** buddy. Also by now we’ve added each other on facebook and snapchat every so often. Never text. The next time i go to his place, I try breaking it off telling him I wasn't supposed to come back and see him but yet i keep on going back, what is it do you want from me? Basically what i wanted to know was if he wants to date me or just keep on being **** buddies, because I didn't want to waste my time being with someone just for sex, thats why i wanted us to be a one night stand lol Background about this guy- he is your stereotypical ****boy. ****ed so many girls he cant keep count. Last girl he slept with before me was 2 weeks prior. Background about me, I’ve only slept with one guy who we lost our virginity to each other, who my tinder ****boy also JUST SO HAPPENS to know. Which made me a little uncomfortable and every time he asks me about my past sexual partners I brush him off. But to answer my question he says, I don’t only want you for sex, I’m over sleeping with random bitches “now that I met you” type thing, I don't do this with other girls (we watched a whole movie at his place without him trying to get into my pants hooray), I wouldn't snapchat you everyday if I didn't like you I’ve never experienced actual dating, and this for sure isn't dating in my eyes. It is a lot of hanging out and “netflix and chilling” Whenever we go out to eat, we always pay for our own food and not like I expect him to pay for mine but at least offer I guess? I don’t know if its an age thing but we dont text but he always responds to my snapchats so I guess that is his way of “texting” I havent seen him or really talked to him in the last week because of finals, but finally he asked me to come over last night after his last final. I replied that I couldn't cuz i had to study for my final the next morning and if he wanted to do something this weekend instead, to which he didn't even respond. a couple hours pass by and end up texting him again “what are you doing” and he immediately responds. so basically i had to force a text conversation out of him, and eventually find out he's going to vegas this weekend. My question is, am I wasting my time? If this guy supposedly likes me so much, why doesn't he text me every so often? I’m not a clingy person but if I had a crush on someone I would text them just to say whats up or something. and when I text him to hang out, he will reply lets hang out tomorrow but completely forget about it and it is never brought up again. VS he will call/ text me out of the blue to grab food and go back to his place but when it is at HIS convenience. Edited December 11, 2015 by aandnluvsu
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I'm not sure I understand this... So you're okay with hooking up with multiple ONS off Tinder but NOT having a regular f*ckbuddy unless he wants to make it official and date you??
VeveCakes Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 He's lying about wanting more, or he really sucks at being a partner. He just doesn't want to lose his booty call.
ravfour4 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 What Veve Cakes said. You're just loving him because he's the closest you've gotten to having a bf it sounds like. He can tell you're new to this and the fact that he's jerking you around saying he's changed now that he met you...even though he never texts you, asks you on dates or pays for you....is just rude. Don't make this fool your first bf You should just ditch him the next time he asks you to come over or tell him he's terrible in bed, destroy his ego which is probably on cloud 9 right now lol
Popsicle Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Some people have the emotional capacity and passion of a slug. He may be one of these. 2
Versacehottie Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Some people have the emotional capacity and passion of a slug. He may be one of these. That is one of the funniest and truest things I've ever heard on here. 2
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I met a guy on tinder, I'm 20 and hes 25. I never actually meet up with people on there but I was bored one night and have been in a dry spell for the last 2 years so I kinda wanted this guy to be a one night stand. I meet him at his place, we go eat, then go back and netflix and chill. I had every intention of not meeting up with him again, but being the girl I am I cant help but think hes cute and reply to his text when he texts me the next morning. long story short, by the first week ive met up with him ive gone to his place 4 times by now. At this point I’m like what am I doing, this is too much time to be spending with just a **** buddy. Also by now we’ve added each other on facebook and snapchat every so often. Never text. The next time i go to his place, I try breaking it off telling him I wasn't supposed to come back and see him but yet i keep on going back, what is it do you want from me? Basically what i wanted to know was if he wants to date me or just keep on being **** buddies, because I didn't want to waste my time being with someone just for sex, thats why i wanted us to be a one night stand lol Background about this guy- he is your stereotypical ****boy. ****ed so many girls he cant keep count. Last girl he slept with before me was 2 weeks prior. Background about me, I’ve only slept with one guy who we lost our virginity to each other, who my tinder ****boy also JUST SO HAPPENS to know. Which made me a little uncomfortable and every time he asks me about my past sexual partners I brush him off. But to answer my question he says, I don’t only want you for sex, I’m over sleeping with random bitches “now that I met you” type thing, I don't do this with other girls (we watched a whole movie at his place without him trying to get into my pants hooray), I wouldn't snapchat you everyday if I didn't like you I’ve never experienced actual dating, and this for sure isn't dating in my eyes. It is a lot of hanging out and “netflix and chilling” Whenever we go out to eat, we always pay for our own food and not like I expect him to pay for mine but at least offer I guess? I don’t know if its an age thing but we dont text but he always responds to my snapchats so I guess that is his way of “texting” I havent seen him or really talked to him in the last week because of finals, but finally he asked me to come over last night after his last final. I replied that I couldn't cuz i had to study for my final the next morning and if he wanted to do something this weekend instead, to which he didn't even respond. a couple hours pass by and end up texting him again “what are you doing” and he immediately responds. so basically i had to force a text conversation out of him, and eventually find out he's going to vegas this weekend. My question is, am I wasting my time? If this guy supposedly likes me so much, why doesn't he text me every so often? I’m not a clingy person but if I had a crush on someone I would text them just to say whats up or something. and when I text him to hang out, he will reply lets hang out tomorrow but completely forget about it and it is never brought up again. VS he will call/ text me out of the blue to grab food and go back to his place but when it is at HIS convenience. More and more, what you describe is "actual dating" for those in their twenties and late teens in 2015. Met on Tinder Immediate sex Facebook Snapchat Though I think you do need to eventually text one another, and add a couple/few websites/apps which I've never heard of in order to completely qualify as (dating in your twenties, in 2015). I think that all of those older movies you've watched on Netflix have afforded you too many examples of traditional (read: ancient) dating, and that they are in stark contrast to your experiences is the main thing that concerns you. Welcome to 2015.
Author aandnluvsu Posted December 12, 2015 Author Posted December 12, 2015 I'm not sure I understand this... So you're okay with hooking up with multiple ONS off Tinder but NOT having a regular f*ckbuddy unless he wants to make it official and date you?? He's the only guy I've met up with who I intended to be a one night stand, but I don't wanna waste my time with someone who isn't interested in taking things further/seriously. Meaning im constantly going to his place to go out and then sleep together
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