cheech_smith Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I'm still in love with my ex g/f. We're both 31, and had dated for a year. We were very compatible and had a great year until the holidays came around. I made some really stupid mistakes which led to her having serious doubts about our relationship and caused her to ultimately move on. She could have been the one, and had told me that she'd like to be. I'd say our intimacy was on the level of fireworks going off, it was really beautiful. I went NC for about 7 months before sending her an e-mail asking how she was doing and telling her I missed her and hoped she was doing great. I got a pretty mean e-mail back, and it was clear that she was still very hurt. She said she didn't want to meet up with me even under the premise of friendship and didn't want to get sucked back into a relationship she wanted nothing to do with. She also made a comment about how she felt that she was the one who was hurt by 'all this'. I went NC again, and 3 more months went by. I looked at her fb page a couple weeks ago on the day of her birthday (we arn't friends on fb), and saw that she changed her cover photo to a photo I took of her on a vacation we took during her previous b-day, wearing a cute winter hat I had purchased her as a present. It's been her cover photo for the past couple of weeks. Does anyone think that this is an invitation to contact her again? She knows I look at her fb profile, because I made a reference to looking at it in the email I sent her 3 months back. Curious what other people think, especially in the context of our last communication.
Blanco Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 What I think is you've spent nearly as much time unwilling to move on from the relationship as you spent actually in a relationship. Staying connected via social media in these cases is rarely a good idea and here's a great example why. You're looking for something, anything to latch on to as a sign that she wants you back. Frankly, it sounds like you got your answer three months ago: She wants nothing to do with you. Even if she was in self-preservation mode when she said that, it was on you to take her words at face value and acknowledge that the relationship was truly finished. Delete her from Facebook, lest you spend another 7 months not moving on at all from a relationship that's been over for nearly a year. 2
Author cheech_smith Posted December 11, 2015 Author Posted December 11, 2015 I hear ya man. I actually was able to move on within a couple months after the breakup when a friend hooked me up with a cute mom. We had a fwb's for a bit and I never thought twice about the ex. Now that I'm in a dry spell I'm just feeling lonely and pining over the ex again. The crazy thing is that a few months before we even broke up, I had been telling my mom that I wasn't really compatible with this girl, and that I anticipated ending the relationship after the upcoming summer (she's a school teacher). I did this pinning over my last ex of 7 years for a good 2 years before I met the new ex which allowed me to move on. I'm kind of worried I'll be in this trap again, where I miss my ex until I meet a new chick.
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