why would she get angry saying she wants to be friends

[AlexDominico]

hooked up with a girl, she went back to her country and got a bf. 3 month past she came over to London again. we got talking and both seeing other people. distance is the deal breaker. anyway, i tried to convince her in a way to move here, but she doesnt want to "right now". and she has a bf obviously, so she said she just want to be friends and nothing more.

 

at same time she said she agrees there will always be something between us, but its just not meant to be. also she said that when shes drunk her heart is in London but when sober she knows she needs to be in Germany where her family and bf are.

 

she got quite angry over txts telling me that she wants to be friends. I didnt push much just said you dont have to give up family and can still see them etc, just said things like that, didnt say dump ur bf be my gf or anything like that.

 

I dont understand why she got so angry and upset telling me that we should be friends. Was she just annoyed with me and felt am pestering her? if she didnt care about me why would she get angry in txts. I kind of feel she got angry because she has some feelings but distance makes it impossible, but then again maybe I became annoying?

 

Did you ever get angry telling a guy you dont want him. I mean when i dont want someone I just act really nice, dont see why I would get upset.

 

 

 

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And you don't have to prove how many girls you've got. Just find someone you really wanne be with.

 

I really want us to be friends and nothing else and I want to be here in Germany at this point and be with my family and the guy I'm with right now.

 

You don't have to tell me how long it takes to get to Germany. I did it 5 times the last 2 years. And it's not just an hour. You've got the time at the airport and my family lives 2 hours car ride away from the next airport.

 

Yeah I know what my heart is doing in London but my head is here. And I know (without alcohol) where I should be at this point.

Edited December 11, 2015 by AlexDominico
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[mystikmind2005]

Its the frustration of her being forced to accept reality and you rubbing salt in that wound.

[fred123]

hooked up with a girl, she went back to her country and got a bf. 3 month past she came over to London again. we got talking and both seeing other people. distance is the deal breaker. anyway, i tried to convince her in a way to move here, but she doesnt want to "right now". and she has a bf obviously, so she said she just want to be friends and nothing more.

 

at same time she said she agrees there will always be something between us, but its just not meant to be. also she said that when shes drunk her heart is in London but when sober she knows she needs to be in Germany where her family and bf are.

 

she got quite angry over txts telling me that she wants to be friends. I didnt push much just said you dont have to give up family and can still see them etc, just said things like that, didnt say dump ur bf be my gf or anything like that.

 

I dont understand why she got so angry and upset telling me that we should be friends. Was she just annoyed with me and felt am pestering her? if she didnt care about me why would she get angry in txts. I kind of feel she got angry because she has some feelings but distance makes it impossible, but then again maybe I became annoying?

 

Did you ever get angry telling a guy you dont want him. I mean when i dont want someone I just act really nice, dont see why I would get upset.

 

 

 

below is short part of the convo:

 

And you don't have to prove how many girls you've got. Just find someone you really wanne be with.

 

I really want us to be friends and nothing else and I want to be here in Germany at this point and be with my family and the guy I'm with right now.

 

You don't have to tell me how long it takes to get to Germany. I did it 5 times the last 2 years. And it's not just an hour. You've got the time at the airport and my family lives 2 hours car ride away from the next airport.

 

Yeah I know what my heart is doing in London but my head is here. And I know (without alcohol) where I should be at this point.

 

Sounds similar to my german story apart from the fact u hooked up! Lets hops shes not from stuttgart lol.

I suggest you just leave it. Nothing u can do unfortunately. Take it as it was a bit of fun.

I know how u feel. I would have done the long distance too. Its no that far

[almond]

I'm surprised she's still communicating with you at all to be honest.

 

She's told you what she wants, and you keep telling her to move to London - even though she has her family and a boyfriend in Germany! You two just hooked up...it's not your place to tell her how to live her life.

 

She's getting annoyed at you not because she has feelings for you, but simply because you're annoying her.

 

I'd let up before you find yourself cut out of her life altogether. She has made it clear she only wants to be friends - if you cannot do this, then tell her and end it.

[AlexDominico]

bump pls, am still not sure what happened here...

[CC12]

Based on her response, it sounds like you were begging or trying to change her mind. You wouldn't take no for an answer, and that can anger and annoy people.

 

Respect her decision and accept it with some dignity.