loverage21 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I am not talking about crushes. I am talking about seriously falling in love with someone after being with them. Can you fall madly in love with someone more than once or is it gameover after you get your heart smashed?
Author loverage21 Posted December 11, 2015 Author Posted December 11, 2015 God, I hope not. How's work going? Chief have me one more chance Wait. You haven't been able to fall in love again?
mrldii Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 Chief have me one more chance Wait. You haven't been able to fall in love again? Good. Don't blow it by being obsessed with figuring out what love is, on paper anyway. I was answering your titled question, which is in direct opposition to the wording of the question at the end of your OP. Each time I have fallen in love, it has been better than the last time that I fell in love. That's because each time I fall out of love, I take the necessary time to heal and to figure out what part I had in love's demise. Pretty sure that's the way *normal*, healthy, well-adjusted adults do it. Good luck to you, OP... 1
sportygirl89 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I think you don't ever get over your first true love. But yes you can love again.
Author loverage21 Posted December 11, 2015 Author Posted December 11, 2015 (edited) I think you don't ever get over your first true love. But yes you can love again. What do you mean by "first true love"? A high school sweetheart? A guy you were with for a few years in high school? The first adult relationship? What? Oh, and btw, thanks for bringing that s*** back up again Edited December 11, 2015 by loverage21
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 What do you mean by "first true love"? A high school sweetheart? A guy you were with for a few years in high school? The first adult relationship? What? Oh, and btw, thanks for bringing that s*** back up again My thoughts exactly 1
Author loverage21 Posted December 11, 2015 Author Posted December 11, 2015 My thoughts exactly You agree with her?
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 You agree with her? I agree with the part I but in bold. We don't need to rehash the topic of first love again. That's been done to death already. 2
Author loverage21 Posted December 11, 2015 Author Posted December 11, 2015 I agree with the part I but in bold. We don't need to rehash the topic of first love again. That's been done to death already. Blame her for bringing it up
LydiaLong Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I suppose one can 'fall in love' any number of times. Sometimes it's lust rather than love. Sometimes the love is one-sided. Some loves are stronger than others. Sometimes you meet someone late in life and fall in love harder and stronger than you ever have. I found my first true love when I was in my 50s. All other relationships (and I had many) were just practice compared to what I found later in life. About not forgetting your first love, that's nonsense. I doubt that people ever sit around thinking about their first loves.
mrldii Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 Blame her for bringing it up Nahhhhh...you just found a way to reword your predetermined, I'll-be-damned-if-I'm-NOT-gonna-get-the-answer-that-I'm-looking-for, same ol' question, same ol' topic of obsessive conversation that almost got you fired, just a short time ago. ANNNNNND that you promised us you weren't gonna do, anymore. It's almost like you're waiting for this board to give you *permission* to go for an abnormally young (and illegally-aged) girl, to get her to fall in love with you, so you can be someone's *first*. It's not gonna happen. 3
Myragal Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I have...4 times over the decades. Only had 4 serious relationships. If not crazy in love and in a relationship, I don't let any man touch my body. I have no desire for physical intimacy otherwise. Then I'm a tigress.
Author loverage21 Posted December 11, 2015 Author Posted December 11, 2015 Nahhhhh...you just found a way to reword your predetermined, I'll-be-damned-if-I'm-NOT-gonna-get-the-answer-that-I'm-looking-for, same ol' question, same ol' topic of obsessive conversation that almost got you fired, just a short time ago. ANNNNNND that you promised us you weren't gonna do, anymore. It's almost like you're waiting for this board to give you *permission* to go for an abnormally young (and illegally-aged) girl, to get her to fall in love with you, so you can be someone's *first*. It's not gonna happen. Thus has nothing to do with that. But I do want a girl with minimal baggage.
mrldii Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 Thus has nothing to do with that. But I do want a girl with minimal baggage. We all want people with "minimal baggage". In most cases, it leaves more storage room for our own. 4
No Limit Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 No, I definitely have lots of love to give. Of course, I never ever just settle for someone; if I wouldn't fall head over heels for him I wouldn't be in a relationship with him.
casey.lives Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Every love is different. they all have their special unique intensity. no two loves are the same but they're all a variation of the same love. Some people fall madly in love once .. some people fall madly in love once a week...teehehe. Seriously. 3
StBreton Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 (edited) We all want people with "minimal baggage". In most cases, it leaves more storage room for our own. Well put there mrldii...your cleverness never disappoints;) OP...I have fallen madly in love more than once. I don't carry more than a Vera Bradley tote full of baggage from relationship to relationship...and it's usually filled with beach supplies. "But I do want a girl with minimal baggage." From your other threads OP...I think tis you who needs to worry about the amount of baggage YOU bring to a relationship...as mrldii so cleverly alluded Edited December 12, 2015 by StBreton 2
FortySomethingGuy Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I am not talking about crushes. I am talking about seriously falling in love with someone after being with them. Can you fall madly in love with someone more than once or is it gameover after you get your heart smashed? Not unless your body stops producing oxytocin (the love/bonding hormone). Oxytocin is the brain's natural 'drug' that gets you high in love. It is nature's way of kick-starting a relationship, but, the euphoric effects fade out after some time. If you have not built a solid emotional/physical partnership by the time the euphoria wears out, to keep it going and to shift to Phase 2, the relationship sputters and runs out of gas. Some people become jaded and cynical, depressed, and/or develop low self-esteem and these can become obstacles to falling in love again. 1
DrReplyInRhymes Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Well, I sure hope not, but I think casey is onto something here, For the love I felt for some has become something I quite fear, For it's intensity, it's complexity, it's unquantifiable nature you hope isn't wasted, Its intoxicating, liberating, and can leave you crushed after you've tasted.
DrReplyInRhymes Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Not unless your body stops producing oxytocin (the love/bonding hormone). Oxytocin is the brain's natural 'drug' that gets you high in love. It is nature's way of kick-starting a relationship, but, the euphoric effects fade out after some time. If you have not built a solid emotional/physical partnership by the time the euphoria wears out, to keep it going and to shift to Phase 2, the relationship sputters and runs out of gas. Some people become jaded and cynical, depressed, and/or develop low self-esteem and these can become obstacles to falling in love again. Serotonin plays into this too, aka the happiness drug https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serotonin
casey.lives Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 personally, i don't want to be madly in love. i want more in my life then to be crazy. i just want to be truly happily in love.
carhill Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Heck, I could redefine the whole 'madly in love' dynamic today. With billions of people in the world, and a universe of potential timelines from each choice we make, the possibilities are endless. I tend to think I was pretty unlucky in love but had what I'd describe as those feelings on at least three occasions, all strong, but different in texture. The last time resulted in a decade long marriage. Will it happen again? Who knows? Certainly not this mortal. Enjoy the ride. 1
MidwestUSA Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Thus has nothing to do with that. But I do want a girl with minimal baggage. It has EVERYTHING to do with that. It doesn't matter how many sub forums you post in, or how you change your wording. It's about Alexa. If you found out tomorrow that she's no longer a virgin, what would you do? Meltdown? Get fired because you can't safely transport sick and injured people in an ambulance? Seriously, you're frightening.
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