NewLeaf512 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 My friends are getting divorced. They are on pretty good terms with 2 adult children. She is living in one residence he in another. She goes to his house every morning and makes him a cappuccino, cleans the house, and does his laundry. (?!?!) He does stuff for her on a more minor scale. She's been telling him she feels like a maid. Then they bicker. It's all very strange. They act "Divorced.. But mentally married" what is this about?
Samhain Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 Not wanting to let go or possibly so used to being married they don't want to let go of their "old roles" who knows, depends how long they were married I guess. Certainly not the "usual" behavior of people saying goodbye to their life together. 1
Author NewLeaf512 Posted December 11, 2015 Author Posted December 11, 2015 Not wanting to let go or possibly so used to being married they don't want to let go of their "old roles" who knows, depends how long they were married I guess. Certainly not the "usual" behavior of people saying goodbye to their life together. She also drives all the way across town to use his gym equipment
Samhain Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 So the price in gas would be a lot more than it would cost to buy her own equipment! Yeah I wouldn't count on this "divorce" actually going ahead. Or if it does, it's gonna suck for anybody who ends up in a relationship with either one of them because neither are letting go. He may do less for her but if he really wanted the divorce he wouldn't want her in his new home touching anything or using any of his stuff. That would irritate the crap out of me, unless I had feelings still.. 1
Gloria25 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I don't think that they have feelings for each other. I believe that it's hard for some people to just start anew as if all those years together could be ripped off like a bandaid. Unless they got enough courage to actually want to face the world alone until they meet someone new, they probably are gonna keep up this nonsense. I mean younger people who don't even have 1/4th of the time together these two have often have problems moving on when a breakup first happens...they sometimes relapse, try to give it another try, etc.
BetrayedH Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I suppose not many divorces are this amiable. But perhaps they just decided they wanted to take separate paths in life and not be tied to each other by vows, and not necessarily feel a need to completely detach. I find it oddly kinda cute, short of the bickering. If I were still bickering with my STBX, I'd tell her to GTFO (well, perhaps more politely than that, but you get my drift).
BetrayedH Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I suppose I should add: I do find it a bit odd. While I sometimes kinda wish my ex and I could be more friendly and amiable (just for the sake of peace for everyone involved), once she opens her mouth or even types something to me I'm back to wishing I never had to speak with her again. I'm ready to move on but I'm stuck coparenting. I suspect she feels the same.
Gloria25 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I must admit that I can see where couples fall into that trap... My mum and I aren't best buds, but good or bad, after a while you sorta get used to them being around. But nah, at the same time feel relieved when she's gone. I can't live with someone if there's constant bickering and drama...rather be alone.
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