Tittsmcgee Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 I'll simplify this. Guy like girl. Girl like guy too. Guy and girl date for 6 months. Girl enlist in Army. Guy will go to college around time girl goes to basic. Girl say she doesn't know if relationship will work out long distance and says she doesn't want to get attached. Guy say ok. Girl ask if they can be friends. Guy say no he has enough friends. Girl gets really pissed.Guy also gets pissed that she's pissed since it was her idea. Girl says she realizes that she needs and loves guy and makes crazy plans onchow she'll make it work out and eventually get married and crap. Guy and girl get back together a couple times before she leaves. Guy goes to college. Girl goes to basic training. Guy still in college and crap. Girl gets out of basic training. Guy spends to much time thinking about girl and needs to focus on school so he deletes her from all social media. Girl notices this and follows and friend requests guy on social media again (snapchat, instagram, facebook). Guy deletes friend and follow requests. Girl notices once again that she can not stalk guy anymore and requests again. Guy is confused why she is trying to keep in touch with him and proceeds to find out why via loveshack.org and speaks in third caveman person. Before she left we got really distant and didn't talk for a couple weeks. Then we went on just one last date and she Told me out of the blue that she really wanted to keep in touch and she wanted to get stationed near me so we could visit eachother. So in short why does she want to keep tabs on me so bad? If she really wanted to be with me why did she suggest breaking up in the first place? I still somewhat have feelings for her but I don't think we really have a chance at all so I think i'm just gonna keep ignoring her. What do you think?
Omei Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 yall need to decide to be together or not and if so accept the current situation and make the best of it. All the games will ruin anything you guys have left and soon you wont even have the option.
Author Tittsmcgee Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 Yeah I don't know. I think she plays too many games. After she suggested breaking up and I agreed she started trying to make me jealous and then started begging me back. Maybe she's just not worth it. But we aren't really together right now either. I would think if she really wanted to talk to me that bad she could just message me instead of adding me on all these social media sites. I hate social media.
Lordreyna Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 Yes... it happens more often than not when people join the military, its really hard to keep someone who isnt in with you to know and understand ...
mrldii Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I think since there's two people involved in every relationship, both of those two people get to decide when and if - and for whatever reason - that relationship is no longer working for one of them. Girl decides to go to basic and to break up with guy (for whatever reason). (For whatever reason,) guy accepts breakup. Girl gets done with basic and decides (for whatever reason) she'd like a relationship with guy. Guy (for whatever reason) decides he no longer wants relationship with girl (at this time or never). You're *allowed* to decide this. Best of luck to you, OP...
morgala Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 OP, I'm in a similar situation right now. He told me he did "not want to pursue things further," not once, but twice. I was pretty broken up about it, and I started seeing other people and pretty much tried to erase this guy from my mind. Yesterday, he said he would like to start dating me again, making no mention of how much pain he caused me before. While difficult, I made the decision to not rekindle anything between us, although your circumstances are different because she did join the military. As someone who has been in her situation as well (the military), I can see why it would be difficult to maintain a relationship in that environment. Personally, I couldn't do it. If you really do care about her, though, it might be worth the effort to try to make things work. I couldn't do it myself, but a lot of people--and I know some--have made such a situation work. The question you have to ask yourself at this juncture is if you trust her intentions. I personally would take things VERY slowly if you decide to pursue another relationship with her and ensure that she is not going to vacillate (i.e., play the hot/cold game) yet again. If the two of you can be mature about this and invest equal effort, it could work. Good luck.
Author Tittsmcgee Posted December 11, 2015 Author Posted December 11, 2015 Yeah I might reach out to her. I just don't know if she's trying to get me to stroke her ego though since she's probably lonely. If I say anything at all it'll just be really bland.
smackie9 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 You are in college.....so much p&^#y to choose from.....you are crazy to get in touch with her.
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