i seriously cant take this amount of rejection anymore.. what am i doing wrong

[WaitingForBardot]

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If a girl tells me she doesn't wanna go out again. Then that's all I need to know.

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All I've ever needed/cared to know.

[ZA Dater]

Women never get the honest truth from a guy about why they're ending things or don't wanna go out again. It's the complete opposite of what you're saying. Most of the time nowadays people just stop answering texts/calls until the other person gets the hint. That way they avoid that all together. It's immature but if you don't care about the person anyways then what do they give a crap about being bluntly 100% honest.

 

Not to mention that it's actually a sympathetic thing to not crush someone's spirit and tell them a truth that would hurt their feelings uneccessarily. If a girl broke up with me saying "I'm just not really looking to have a serious relationship and I don't feel that spark with you to continue trying" and I prodded her and prodded for the "real reason". Until she finally said "fine, it's because i don't find you attractive enough and was bored during our dates". What does that do for me? Just makes me feel bad.

 

It's socially acceptable to spare that bluntness. Telling people "why" is always like telling your kids that Santa isn't real. They don't need to know and it didn't dk anything but make both people feel bad.

 

The why isn't even important. If a girl tells me she doesn't wanna go out again. Then that's all I need to know. I'm not gonna change her mind. Just like if I went to a restaurant and told the waiter/chef "please hold the cheese and tomatoes on my order"... They're not going to ask me why.

Why?

Because I don't freaking like cheese and tomatoes ok? Wtf else is there you need to know?

 

Why is important so you can avoid making the same mistake going forward.

[hasaquestion]

I think as you age you're able to handle rejection better. Your skin gets thicker as time goes on. When I was younger I would be upset if a woman gave me a hard time, played games... now? I ignore them and walk away.

 

When you believe in who you are and what you stand for, you don't worry about other people's approval. When you have low self-esteem, you take things personally.

 

I really think the best thing that ever happened for my own dating life was this game I used play with friends. We'd sit around a crowded square in Boston, and have to take turns approaching a girl or woman and trying to get her number in front of everyone else. One variant involved the group choosing what you had to say to her. It was basically hazing and harassment rolled into one activity. It was also hilarious and a great learning experience. I can't tell you how many times that game got me 'rejected' by someone.

[road]

The first woman and the OP did not mesh well and she dumped him.

 

 

Same with the second one.

 

 

And the OP kind of felt the first relationship was weak and may not of lasted long. So he knew he was going to get dumped.

 

 

They were nice enough to let him down easy.

 

 

He wanted the truth?

 

 

What truth?

 

 

What man wants to hear is equipment is substandard?

 

 

What man want to hear he has no skills in the bedroom or the sofa or the back seat of the car?

 

 

Or that he just is low energy like Jeb Bush.

[Qboro90]

Why is important so you can avoid making the same mistake going forward.

 

So if she says "I can't stand the way your face looks". You gonna have plastic surgery on your future dates or will you wear a mask?

 

These women aren't your teachers who are required to give you your grades when you fail and teach you where you made your mistakes so that you can pass the next test. Don't treat them as such