planb1973 Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 I have been with my gf for about 5 months. This is the second time we have dated. The first time we were together for 4 months till she fell in love with me, got scared, and ran. I let her go and a year later she randomly gets a hold of me, had done a lot of self reflection, and wants me back in her life. So during this year apart she bought a vacation cabin in the mountain and learned how to ski. Great! I spent 15 years living on the same mountain and skiing all the time. But I grew tired of it, wanted something else, and moved to the city 5 years ago where we both live. I still love the mountains but only as a place to visit, I would never want to live up there again. Gf is obsessing constantly about going to her cabin. She goes there every weekend, and sometimes during the work week. I can see going once a month or so, but that is all. All she talks about is the cabin, the cabin, the cabin. It is driving me nuts! To the point that I don't want to go at all. If I mention that I am taking a day off her first words are "lets go to the cabin." If I tell her I had a ruff day, "you should go to the cabin." Hey lets go see a movie, "I guess, then lets go to the cabin." Auuugh! Enough! Talking to her about this issue only leads to arguments and defensiveness. Any suggestions on how to handle an obsessing gf?
PegNosePete Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 Tell her it's you or the cabin, the relationship ain't big enough for the both of you.
TaraMaiden2 Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 ....Or suggest you build a replica in the back yard, and she can go to that one. So, on the basis of what you've told us, I'm beginning to figure that a second chance was not such a good idea....
smackie9 Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 Who said you had to go with her? I'm sure a weekend or two apart to go do your own thing isn't going to kill you. Let her enjoy her cabin. You can simply tell her no. This cabin thing is relatively new to her, so I bet in time she will ease up on going there. Me I'm totally jealous. I would love to sit in a hot tub at my cabin and drink beers every weekend.
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