Biscous Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 I've been doing the OLD thing a bit and matched with this one girl who I found out works in the same company I do. She works in the office in another city. I'm in San Antonio, she in Austin so about an hour away. Long story short, it was a bit harder to initially get her attention being that she didn't pay attention to the app much, but when she did she was ecstatic to meet me. She gave me about 3-4 options to meet her, exclamation marks everywhere, etc. I get her contact info and we joke about the concept of dating. She called it 'networking with a coworker, who she happened to meet on Tinder'. I asked her do people even really go on dates anymore? She has similar interests as I do also which was cool. Upon first meeting her she was very enthused. A lot of body contact. Nothing sexual, just something I feel would be reserved for gf/bf. Interlocking arms, she wanted to hold my hand, etc. I made her laugh a lot. I did this even through texts. She was in San Antonio for our work and a customer meet so she didn't have much time. We went to get drinks and I think we hit it off great. It was just shorter than I expected since she had to get up early. I fire two texts to her. One joking about our 'date' comment and lining something up. Another wishing her luck on her customer meet. I get from her "Thanks Biscous!!!!!!!" which is typical of her ecstatic fashion. Really not sure where to go from here. Before meeting her she seemed to be really into me. I would text one or two things to her through Tinder and I would get 5-6 things. Now things slowed down. She is genuinely busy given the nature of our work. I'm just frankly really into her and wonder if I came off as too needy perhaps, not too interested, or the simple nature of online dating. Also what to do next. Thoughts?
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 Hard to say. My typical response to this is that if someone's really into you they'll always make a point of making and staying in contact. Always. I don't care how busy someone is, if they like you and enjoy your company and want to (eventually) see you again, they will make the time. Competition is fierce theses days after all. Having said that, if YOU like her and aren't ready to give up just yet, stop over analyzing things and just set another date to meet. You'll either get a favorable response in which case she's leaving the door open or she'll put you off by saying she'll get back to you or whatever. This isn't promising and basically you've been put in the friend-zone. Anyways, just my two cents. Good luck.
Author Biscous Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 Hard to say. My typical response to this is that if someone's really into you they'll always make a point of making and staying in contact. Always. I don't care how busy someone is, if they like you and enjoy your company and want to (eventually) see you again, they will make the time. Competition is fierce theses days after all. Having said that, if YOU like her and aren't ready to give up just yet, stop over analyzing things and just set another date to meet. You'll either get a favorable response in which case she's leaving the door open or she'll put you off by saying she'll get back to you or whatever. This isn't promising and basically you've been put in the friend-zone. Anyways, just my two cents. Good luck. Thank you. Yes that's why I was thinking regarding competition. Can't wait around! Just very on the fence because honestly an hour wasn't much time to establish a high level of intimacy but she was really giving me signs. Weird.
xcupid Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 Ask her out. Romance her. See if there's something there.
Author Biscous Posted December 14, 2015 Author Posted December 14, 2015 Pretty sure all she wanted was a hook up but maybe I'll re engage
Gaeta Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Your first 3 paragraphs don't count. Even if you have a good connection online before meeting it means nothing. The real test is actually meeting. From there it's square one. What your story tells me is that she is not interested in a romantic connection with you. I don't care how early I have to get up if I am having a drink with a man I find attractive I won't cut it short! I will give him some decent time. Also when he text me afterwards I will express how nice it was to meet him and thank him, I won't say just thanks. If I say just thanks it's because I don't want to give him any idea that I liked him too much. She is not interested. And why would you want to date someone that lives 1 hour away, really.
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