aquietgirl20 Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 Any insight and advice ? My bf and I have been together 11 months . We broke up because he said that he is not happy with his life and his life is a mess. He wants to get his "sh*t" together first. He basically messed up his grade 12 year and is going back to school to get them. He also didn't have a job and paid for our dates using his parents money. But 2 weeks after the break up, he told me i was the perfect partner he could ever and he knows he wants to grow old and old only with me. He said he may not be "ready" with his life but he sure knows what he wants and that's me. He also got a new job and was so excited to tell me he told me i was his princess and his girlfriend and was ready to treat me the best. Then a week after this broke up AGAIN.He told me he doesn't feel the "chemistry" but i think that's a lie and then after he said " he cannot commit to me as he doesn't feel ready. He was working almost everyday and is taking science courses which are hard. He said that he likes me but he cannot commit to a relationship now. When i asked him if it was just "me" He said it's not only you ,(when i asked) that it's for any girl. He's not going to look for other girls right now. he also told me he wanted to be able "to see you often or almost everyday you know, when you're in the ?high?" i think thats what he said unless the ending was a typo? Some other things about him: -was cheated on in a 1.5 year relationship before. HE was badly stung and bitter about girls when i first met him. Then he said i "changed him" and gave him hope that all girls are not horrible and that he could finally find someone he truly trusted (me). I don't want to talk to him ...I want him to let go of me so if we get back together his heart will be fresh ready to be with me properly he was very locked in about his feelings tho. is he hiding the fact that he loves me? In the end when i tried to pry it out of him he said " i like you but can't commit right now" He offered to be friends this time since last time i went no contact he went crazy and felt depressed. He didn't want to lose contact this time but i left and went NC. I REFUSE TO BE FRIENDS. thank you both for your responses. I refuse to be friends with him! I am now going no contact! I really love him he was the only person that i ever felt happy with. True happiness.
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 I'm sorry for your heartache but I think you're doing the right thing by going NC. Sometimes we meet the love our lives but for whatever reason the timing is off. It sounds like your boyfriend has a lot of baggage and issues to work through and only HE can do that. You don't deserve to be dragged around while he flip flops about wanting to be with you or not. Your loyalty is to yourself. Hugs.
Author aquietgirl20 Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 thanks for your response. at least you responded, no one else could. do you think he'll come back or no? even tho he's not looking for someone new I'm scared another girl might take him away and don't tell me to 'accept' this or whatever
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 It's hard to say sweetie. He might but then again he might not. And if he doesn't then it's not meant to be. I know that's hard to accept but that's how life works. It can be cruel sometimes especially since we can't control who we fall in love with. Do you really want him back if it means he hasn't changed at all?
Author aquietgirl20 Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 hehe :$ you're a nice friend ! well as long as he is able to hold a relationship down even if he's working on himself. i don't want him flip-flopping on me tho
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