theseaofred1982 Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 (edited) We've been friends for over 2 years and casually hooked up for over a year. For the past year, she had no interest in being in a relationship and would sleep around. She's not really a one night stand type of girl, she stays with the guy during the "honeymoon phase" then finds a new man before things escalate into something more. I've known this about her since she's a friend of mine and have accepted that part of her. We both admitted to each other that despite the fact that we see other people, there's something between us that always brings us back to each other. Maybe it's because we've known each other for awhile now. Recently, SHE expressed that she wants to be EXCLUSIVE, but somewhat backtracks and tells me she has no idea what shes doing and scared to be in a relationship. I always reply with, don't rush it, if it's meant to be, it will be. And she loves that. I've never pushed the issue before and Im not planning too either. I know how easily she gets bored with men, two weeks and she's out, but our little endevour has lasted a year so far. Maybe it's because I'm the only one who never push the issue of being exclusive with her. keep in mind that she's very very attractive and get a lot of attention from men; it doesn't help that her second job is being a bartender. Anyway, despite the fact that we're only seeing each other casually, she loves to hold my hands and tells me how everything I do feels right for her and how much she cares about me. For the past month, she has invested a lot in me, way more than what i'm used to with her. I'm scared that if I give in to this, I'll end up like all the other men. While I never push the issue of being exclusive, I do want her. Edited December 10, 2015 by theseaofred1982
Redhead14 Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 We've been friends for over 2 years and casually hooked up for over a year. For the past year, she had no interest in being in a relationship and would sleep around. She's not really a one night stand type of girl, she stays with the guy during the "honeymoon phase" then finds a new man before things escalate into something more. I've known this about her since she's a friend of mine and have accepted that part of her. We both admitted to each other that despite the fact that we see other people, there's something between us that always brings us back to each other. Maybe it's because we've known each other for awhile now. Recently, SHE expressed that she wants to be EXCLUSIVE, but somewhat backtracks and tells me she has no idea what shes doing and scared to be in a relationship. I always reply with, don't rush it, if it's meant to be, it will be. And she loves that. I've never pushed the issue before and Im not planning too either. I know how easily she gets bored with men, two weeks and she's out, but our little endevour has lasted a year so far. Maybe it's because I'm the only one who never push the issue of being exclusive with her. keep in mind that she's very very attractive and get a lot of attention from men; it doesn't help that her second job is being a bartender. Anyway, despite the fact that we're only seeing each other casually, she loves to hold my hands and tells me how everything I do feels right for her and how much she cares about me. For the past month, she has invested a lot in me, way more than what i'm used to with her. I'm scared that if I give in to this, I'll end up like all the other men. While I never push the issue of being exclusive, I do want her. Now, pretend that your brother came to you with this story . . . what would you tell him?
Author theseaofred1982 Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 Now, pretend that your brother came to you with this story . . . what would you tell him? I wouldn't know what to tell him...I'm confused myself
Islander19 Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 I don't think there's anything wrong with expressing your concerns to her as to why you're hesitant to commit yourself to her. If she can assure you that she's serious about this why not give it a try, especially since you really like her? There's obviously a reason why she's stuck with and gotten rid of every other guy. Maybe she's finally ready to settle down.
Redhead14 Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 I wouldn't know what to tell him...I'm confused myself You are reading the writing on the wall . . . this is one time you should believe everything you read.
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