Can you take a look at this list and tell me if you think he is interested or not?

[KS3699]

Background: Tim & I have been friends for 8 yrs. Recently, w/in the past 2 months, Tim started being VERY flirty w/me. I was in a relationship that ended & he was aware of it. Now since the relationship ended I am trying to take it slow & but I have been developing feelings for Tim. I think he is interested - but I don't know for sure. Can you help?

 

Why I think he is:

-He is constantly flirty

-He came over one night & told me he has developed feelings for me that he doesn't know how to interpert b/c we have been friends for so long.

-He kissed me after telling me how he felt - & has since kissed me

-He has said that what he is looking for in a girl is everything I am - someone he is friends w/, someone he is comfortable, someone he likes being around & can have a conversation w/

-he is always touching me whenever we are together (holding my hand, putting his arm around me)

-He is always looking at me & staring at me

-When we are alone he always holds me & wants to cuddle

-When we are in a group he always touches me to let me know he is there

-He is very forward w/telling me i am attractive & how I am a catch

-He gets shy around me

-His body language in group indicates he wants to be around me

-Other people thought there was something going on b/c of how we are together

 

Why I think he isn't:

-He doesn't always text me back (this really sticks w/me b/c if he was interested - shouldn't he be texting?)

-He had told me since I just got out of a relationship he wants to take things slow & figure out what this is between us b/c he doesn't want to be a rebound

-He is concerned how genuine our feelings are - he said why wouldn't we have realized it yrs ago?

-A girl he was seeing a while back recently came back in the picture trying to get another go at it w/him. He had said he was apprehensive to go out w/her b/c he didn't want to betray me but I told him he needs to find happiness even if it is not me - especially since we aren't dating

 

Thoughts? All insights are great

[Michelle ma Belle]

Hmm...this post sounds oddly familiar to one I responded to yesterday...

 

My comment(s) still stand.

[Glitters]

Take him by his words and move on. If someone is scared to be with you from fear of being a rebound, drop them and don't take them back. If you haven't moved on emotionally from your broken relationship, don't start dating yet.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Background: Tim & I have been friends for 8 yrs. Recently, w/in the past 2 months, Tim started being VERY flirty w/me. I was in a relationship that ended & he was aware of it. Now since the relationship ended I am trying to take it slow & but I have been developing feelings for Tim. I think he is interested - but I don't know for sure. Can you help?

 

Why I think he is:

-He is constantly flirty

-He came over one night & told me he has developed feelings for me that he doesn't know how to interpert b/c we have been friends for so long.

-He kissed me after telling me how he felt - & has since kissed me

-He has said that what he is looking for in a girl is everything I am - someone he is friends w/, someone he is comfortable, someone he likes being around & can have a conversation w/

-he is always touching me whenever we are together (holding my hand, putting his arm around me)

-He is always looking at me & staring at me

-When we are alone he always holds me & wants to cuddle

-When we are in a group he always touches me to let me know he is there

-He is very forward w/telling me i am attractive & how I am a catch

-He gets shy around me

-His body language in group indicates he wants to be around me

-Other people thought there was something going on b/c of how we are together

 

Why I think he isn't:

-He doesn't always text me back (this really sticks w/me b/c if he was interested - shouldn't he be texting?)

-He had told me since I just got out of a relationship he wants to take things slow & figure out what this is between us b/c he doesn't want to be a rebound

-He is concerned how genuine our feelings are - he said why wouldn't we have realized it yrs ago?

-A girl he was seeing a while back recently came back in the picture trying to get another go at it w/him. He had said he was apprehensive to go out w/her b/c he didn't want to betray me but I told him he needs to find happiness even if it is not me - especially since we aren't dating

 

Thoughts? All insights are great

 

 

 

This sorta seems that you would more enjoy sitting home and romanticizing about him, as if reading a Harlequin romance written for 14yo's, rather than involve yourself in the communication needed to jump-start such a thing.

 

There is overwhelming evidence which you have presented that he's mainly there for a shot at your heart.

 

You are in the rare-ish position where you need only grab him, and plant a deliberate and lingering kiss on his lips, to get things going as you seem to want...

 

By now you have conditioned him to wait for you... so perhaps as the result of that, you're gonna have to be clear in making the first move!!!

 

 

He's a sure thing!

[smackie9]

Hmm...this post sounds oddly familiar to one I responded to yesterday...

 

My comment(s) still stand.

Triple posted............They are looking for someone to tell them what they want to hear, so far probably not hence the 3 identical threads. One says 7 years instead of 8 thinking that is going to fool us or something.

[crederer]

He wants to have sex with you regularly while he looks for a "better" life partner. If you're cool with that, then go for it.

[The Way I Am]

Yes, he was interested. It's possible that he's not responding anymore because something has progressed with the other girl you encouraged him to date.

 

He put himself out there and you rejected him by telling him to find happiness elsewhere. If you want a chance with him, you need to put yourself out there now and be prepared for possible rejection -- just like he did.