Majorful Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 I am a male whose best friend is a female. We live in different states currently, but still see each other some. I have known this woman for several years and do have feelings for her, but aside from the general fear of "what if the friendship becomes awkward if she says no," I also know she has given no real clue that she even feels the same. In a normal situation, when a woman comes to a male friend for dating advice, dresses more casually in their presence, etc, many would generally assume "maybe she is just not into you that way." However, since we are currently not even living in the same state, I wonder if it could also be possible that she has simply just not considered the possibility either due to the distance between us itself, or assuming I myself would not be interested for the same reason, thus why seemingly showing no hints at anything more. I am weighing whether I should tell her of my feelings when next I see her just in case the distance may very well have been playing a part in it this whole time and just wanted a perspective of someone else. Thanks.
road Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 Long distance rarely works. So if you want her then tell her and figure out between the two of you to move closer. You live two hours apart you both move in the middle and you have a one hour commute to your jobs. 1
Author Majorful Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 Well, that's the thing. I would be more than willing to fix the issue of distance if the opportunity for something more was a possibility. That in and of itself, is no problem for me. I was more so just looking for feedback on whether a lack of signals from her end on whether or not she has ever considered any sort of romantic interest could possibly be that she assumes there would be no reason to even mention it because she assumes we could never be "together" to begin with, not knowing I would be willing to relocate if I thought there was a chance.
Versacehottie Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 I think you need to put out some flirting signals and see how she reacts. That is the smart plan rather than shocking her with the information. Gather some intel of your own first. Plant the seed. If you just blurt it out, it can be shocking.
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