Versacehottie Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I defiantly feel this is a topic I should chime in for and offer my two cents.. A few years ago when I had a OKcupid account, I "met" a very attractive girl on there. We exchanged numbers and talked on the phone a ton. Long story short she would always cancel on dates last minute with some random excuse, but I was dumb and I talked to her anyways and always made excuses for her and understood she was busy. After 4-5 months of talking on the phone and not meeting up once, I cut contact with her. About a year after I cut contact I found out that she stole pictures from some girls Facebook (all I had to do was copy and paste her phone number into the search bar). I was so upset and I called the girl out on it and asked her why she led me on for so long and lied to me. Like you, she said she wasn't confident in her looks, and that her "joke account" let her get to know me, and that she started having feelings for me, but she was scared to tell me the truth. In the end, she sent me a real picture of herself and added me on snapchat and omg I was blown away how gorgeous she was....problem is I lost all respect for her and knew I would never be able to trust someone like that. Don't be like her...just because you may not be comfortable the way you look doesn't mean other people will feel the same way, trust me. Good luck!!!!! Be yourself and you'll be just fine in the dating world. Perfect example. tHanks for sharing.
Versacehottie Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Please don't take this the wrong way but did you see that part of my post when I said if anyone got interested I would close it? Also I was not looking for anything...I wanted to interact with men, I didn't go there to find anyone. I just wanted to chat and ask questions about love, relationships...etc. I want them to talk to me, they don't even talk on social media. I know, I should just remain honest but I really need that interaction with men. The only man I've every truly been around is my brother and very, very few dates. Why don't men just be friends with me? This is all I want.... I'm getting sick of this! I mean they make me feel like I'm asking them to marry me or something...WTF:/ Not normal, deceptive and selfish. If you need to interact with men as friends, find a way to do it. In real life, with real friends, make friends, work friends. You don't dupe people about who you are/your intention (looking for friends or interactions on a dating site) for selfish gain. Can you see how self-centered that is? It doesn't matter if you think it's minor and harmless. You are involving yourself in other people's lives dishonestly. Frankly you get what you deserve at that point if it's bad. Clean hands. Come to YOUR interactions with clean hands and then you may have the right to complain. I'm glad you wrote above that you closed the account. But I don't feel sorry for you at all. So you are mad that you did not get the interactive experience with men that you wanted???? And that they are making incorrect assumptions about your intentions---how IRONIC! You act like you deserve a normal interaction. But you are falsifying the first first element: who you are. SMH forever on this one. Completely ridiculous and rude. 1
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Also I was not looking for anything...I wanted to interact with men, I didn't go there to find anyone. I just wanted to chat and ask questions about love, relationships...etc. I want them to talk to me, they don't even talk on social media. I know, I should just remain honest but I really need that interaction with men. The only man I've every truly been around is my brother and very, very few dates. Ever see "Catfish"?
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