When she gets her rota she'll let me know.. Usually a line to let you down easily?

[ramboparrot]

Met a foreign girl online and we've had three dates so far, all in which after the dates, she has initiated contact with me.

 

Our most recent date was supposed to be in the city, but she told me she had a different plan for us, but it could wait for next time as she didn't want to mess up the plan I already had for our date. So I asked what it was an she told me she would rather do something relaxing because she would be up super early the next morning for work.

 

She wanted me to come over to her place to watch a movie, in which I agreed to and noticed her flatmates were conveniently away.

 

Anyway, as soon as the movie started I wrapped my arm around her and she got really close and lay her head against my chest. I also felt her hand interlocking with mine and we were stroking each other. We kissed passionately about three times during the movie, lasting a while each time.

 

We then talked, had wine, she called me funny after jokes and she got her camera to get me to teach her how to use it. At the end as I was leaving, we kissed for a while again as I held her waist, she had her arms around my neck. As I pulled away she was grinning.

 

When I got home she text me to see if I got home. Our conversation went like:

 

Her: Did you get home?

Me: I did. I'd ask how your sleeping is going, but it doesn't look too great!

Her: I can't sleep, I don't know why??

Me: It's probably that thing I saw crawl out of your attic.. (reference from movie we saw)

Her: Shut up! I'm alone at home!

Me: Don't spook yourself too much... I'm off, goodnight!

Her: :'( night

 

A day and a half later I initiated in an aim to meet up again

 

Me: Hope sleepy head actually did some work yesterday and didn't oversleep

Her: I've been a good girl! How r u?

Me: Well I think I've found that girl killing all them drunks.. She's a really bad sleeper, laughs a lot and has an obsession with minions, but doesn't admit it (reference to her joking about killing drunks a few days ago)

Her: Hahahah wow!! I don't know that girl..

Me: How about you let me know when you're next free, I'll teach you the art of bowling

Her: I'm off this Thursday but I have plans, so when I have my new rota I'll let you know

Me: Okay, fair enough

 

She works at a restaurant and works late hours. When I asked her on our first date 3 weeks ago, I remember her giving me the same line then but she never brought it up until I did and we got our date sorted.

 

So i'm thinking, could she be blowing me off or should I now go no contact until when I know she'll get her rota? I assume if she's interested she'll carry on initiating conversation between then, but I know that she won't bring up when she's free on her rota until I do, like she did last time.

 

Feel free to ask questions!

Edited December 8, 2015 by ramboparrot

[shet]

It's probably a legit excuse right now. People have rotas, work is important. On the other hand, being interested in dating someone does tend to replace other day-off "plans". If you're back here in 2 weeks and haven't managed to see her again, then you can think it's a put-off.

 

Edit: I once dated someone who was legit interested in me, but her dicking around about rotas and never being available meant there was no practical way to actually have a relationship. How can I date someone who has no time to date. In the end even if they do want to see you, if their work schedule is so punishing they can't actually have a relationship, that's their work-life balance problem and you have to put them aside just out of practicality.

Edited December 9, 2015 by shet

[ramboparrot]

It's probably a legit excuse right now. People have rotas, work is important. On the other hand, being interested in dating someone does tend to replace other day-off "plans". If you're back here in 2 weeks and haven't managed to see her again, then you can think it's a put-off.

 

Edit: I once dated someone who was legit interested in me, but her dicking around about rotas and never being available meant there was no practical way to actually have a relationship. How can I date someone who has no time to date. In the end even if they do want to see you, if their work schedule is so punishing they can't actually have a relationship, that's their work-life balance problem and you have to put them aside just out of practicality.

 

Seeing as I've had this rota line off her before and persisted with it getting the date, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. I work on a rota system, so it can get annoying.

 

I can assume she is interested if she initiates between now and then though, but what if she doesn't? She initiates 80% of the time. Maybe I will drop contact until the weekend, we send a couple of texts a day so might pay off creating some space for her to miss me.