xingyi Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I have been seen this guy on and off for over half year. Basically what we do together is just sex, no dating or hanging out. It seems like he just wants me to leave after the sex is done every time. But he is giving me mixed signals Sometime he would ask me if I have slept with someone else after him. Yesterday I texted him if he wanted to meet, he said I should have told him earlier because he was already at his best friend's place. I then said ok, stay at your friend's place and I am gonna find something else to do. He said hold on, he was gonna figure something out. 5 minutes later I texted him and told him that I have fu*k other guys now. My question is, from his action I could tell that this guy does not like me that way, but if I have no feelings for someone I wouldn't care if he is sleeping with other girls
GorillaTheater Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Yesterday I texted him if he wanted to meet, he said I should have told him earlier because he was already at his best friend's place. I then said ok, stay at your friend's place and I am gonna find something else to do. He said hold on, he was gonna figure something out. 5 minutes later I texted him and told him that I have fu*k other guys now. Just five minutes? That was quick. How many were there? 2
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Very rarely in my experience are these situations balanced and fair. There is usually one person that is more dominate and in control. He is probably having sex with other girls, yet he's checking in to see if you're having sex with other guys. He just wants to know either A) if you're having sex with other guys, how many girls can he get away with sleeping with B) He wants to be the one in control, having sex with other woman while he's sleeping with you, but not really cool if you're doing the same. I doubt he has feelings from you judging from your post OP, and if you're not getting anything decent and nourishing from this FWB situation, then I would gap it. These toxic situations can become very messy and leave you a shell of a person if you're not strong or experienced enough to handle them. Usually FWB situations have ground rules? have you discussed them? Usually, if someone starts to feel more for the other person, that's the time to be on your way and part.
kismetkismet Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Doesn't seem like it. If the only time that he wants to spend with you is to have sex then that is all he is interested in. Wondering if you are sleeping with other people could be related to wondering whether you have been having safe sex etc. People tend to have vague amounts of jealousy over someone they are sleeping with even if they have no feelings at all.. it's like a base instinct sort of thing.
Author xingyi Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 Just five minutes? That was quick. How many were there? I don't know why my post came out as this way. Maybe when I edited it I deleted some part of it. The original part is like this : 5 minutes later I texted him and told him that I have found something else to do. He was angry after that, said he had changed his plan because of me. He said that I have found other guy, and I do fu*k other guy.
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I don't know why my post came out as this way. Maybe when I edited it I deleted some part of it. The original part is like this : 5 minutes later I texted him and told him that I have found something else to do. He was angry after that, said he had changed his plan because of me. He said that I have found other guy, and I do fu*k other guy. seemed like he was really horny couldn't get what he wanted in that moment in time.
Author xingyi Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 Very rarely in my experience are these situations balanced and fair. There is usually one person that is more dominate and in control. He is probably having sex with other girls, yet he's checking in to see if you're having sex with other guys. He just wants to know either A) if you're having sex with other guys, how many girls can he get away with sleeping with B) He wants to be the one in control, having sex with other woman while he's sleeping with you, but not really cool if you're doing the same. I doubt he has feelings from you judging from your post OP, and if you're not getting anything decent and nourishing from this FWB situation, then I would gap it. These toxic situations can become very messy and leave you a shell of a person if you're not strong or experienced enough to handle them. Usually FWB situations have ground rules? have you discussed them? Usually, if someone starts to feel more for the other person, that's the time to be on your way and part. From his reactions I could tell he is sleeping with other women. My original post is not like this, I deleted some part of it by mistake and I am not able to edit it again. Yesterday when I told him I am not gonna see him as I have found something else to do, he was super angry, accusing me that I have found some other guy, saying that I do sleep with other guys. I said no I have not slept with anyone else since I was him last time, he said neither has him. I was thinking if he had slept with someone else, he didn't need to say "neither have I" as I didn't ask him if he did. Maybe he is dating someone else but the sex has not started yet. I have tried to cut off with this guy many times. I have blocked him number, not answering his phone calls, but he would find a way to talk to me and I finally give up every time. I start to have more feelings for him but will try my best to move on
Author xingyi Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 Doesn't seem like it. If the only time that he wants to spend with you is to have sex then that is all he is interested in. Wondering if you are sleeping with other people could be related to wondering whether you have been having safe sex etc. People tend to have vague amounts of jealousy over someone they are sleeping with even if they have no feelings at all.. it's like a base instinct sort of thing. Exactly. if he had only a bit feelings for me, he would not just want me for sex all the time. So the answer to me is quite clear now, he has no feelings for me. It is just a common sense but I was just blocking my eyes and pretended I didn't see it, lol
jen1447 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I think the question's moot in an "I was wondering if" type context, bc healthy f*ck buddy relationships are bscly like business relationships and as such there's no place for playing feelings hide-and-go-seek. Just ask him if he's catching feelings and if he is or seems goofy at all, it's time to call it off. (Unless you've caught them too and want a regular relationship.)
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 From his reactions I could tell he is sleeping with other women. My original post is not like this, I deleted some part of it by mistake and I am not able to edit it again. Yesterday when I told him I am not gonna see him as I have found something else to do, he was super angry, accusing me that I have found some other guy, saying that I do sleep with other guys. I said no I have not slept with anyone else since I was him last time, he said neither has him. I was thinking if he had slept with someone else, he didn't need to say "neither have I" as I didn't ask him if he did. Maybe he is dating someone else but the sex has not started yet. I have tried to cut off with this guy many times. I have blocked him number, not answering his phone calls, but he would find a way to talk to me and I finally give up every time. I start to have more feelings for him but will try my best to move on GUUUUURL GET AWAY FROM HIM if he tries to get a hold of you and you've blocked his number and your not answering his phone calls... He is DANGEROUS! I have had this exact same thing happen to me. It's about power and control and he wants to have all of it. Restraining order what ever it takes! The guy that I slept with for a few months he was exactly like this. Did not have any feelings for me at all. When I started sleeping with others, it was like an atomic bomb went off. Suddenly he got really possessive and tried to contact me from all angles, even though he felt he was free to sleep with whoever he pleased. In the end. I called the police. He hasn't tried to contact me since. These men are crazily dangerous like I've said.
Author xingyi Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 GUUUUURL GET AWAY FROM HIM if he tries to get a hold of you and you've blocked his number and your not answering his phone calls... He is DANGEROUS! I have had this exact same thing happen to me. It's about power and control and he wants to have all of it. Restraining order what ever it takes! The guy that I slept with for a few months he was exactly like this. Did not have any feelings for me at all. When I started sleeping with others, it was like an atomic bomb went off. Suddenly he got really possessive and tried to contact me from all angles, even though he felt he was free to sleep with whoever he pleased. In the end. I called the police. He hasn't tried to contact me since. These men are crazily dangerous like I've said. How did you know that he didn't have any feelings for you?
Author xingyi Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 I think the question's moot in an "I was wondering if" type context, bc healthy f*ck buddy relationships are bscly like business relationships and as such there's no place for playing feelings hide-and-go-seek. Just ask him if he's catching feelings and if he is or seems goofy at all, it's time to call it off. (Unless you've caught them too and want a regular relationship.) Yea next time I would be very upfront telling him that I have feelings for him now, if he doesn't feel the same we need to end things
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 How did you know that he didn't have any feelings for you? Because you know if someone has feelings for you. They usually say I like you. They don't try to manipulate, control you and **** with your head in order to have sex with you. This guy sees you as an easy meal for a very hungry tiger. He's using you. FWB is a contract between two people using each other. But if you start to have feelings for him, he has exactly where he wants you and your playing into his hand, and now it's you whose being used and not him. It has become about control. If you don't like being controlled get out as fast as you can and I would get a restraining order if it gets serious. I can guarantee this man does not have any feelings for you. Period.
brokengirl85 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 No, he's not catching feelings. He's just happy he has some free supply.
smackie9 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 He's being controlling, not caring because of his fat ego. You should never ever defend yourself with his accusations. You should have told him to mind his own business and that you are not obligated to tell him anything.....he doesn't own you. You should delete/block/do not look at or read messages if he breaks through to reach you.....seriously he doesn't has a gun to your head, this shouldn't be that hard. Get your emotions in check and cut him off.
Hughes101 Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 I have been seen this guy on and off for over half year. Basically what we do together is just sex, no dating or hanging out. It seems like he just wants me to leave after the sex is done every time. But he is giving me mixed signals Sometime he would ask me if I have slept with someone else after him. Yesterday I texted him if he wanted to meet, he said I should have told him earlier because he was already at his best friend's place. I then said ok, stay at your friend's place and I am gonna find something else to do. He said hold on, he was gonna figure something out. 5 minutes later I texted him and told him that I have fu*k other guys now. My question is, from his action I could tell that this guy does not like me that way, but if I have no feelings for someone I wouldn't care if he is sleeping with other girls Maybe he's worried about stds and the like. Or just curious about what goes on in your mind. Imo 2 pp can't stay fbs for 6 months without 1party starting to feel something. Most importantly if you don't have feelings for him then why do you care? Already sounds like more than fbs
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