rp512 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I met this girl over the summer. The same week I met her, she just ended a 2.5 year relationship with her now ex bf. Her and I just started off as friends. Our conversations at work were great, always funny, always laughing. Her and I, and our mutual friend from work got really close as the summer came towards an end. Us 3 were going out, getting drinks, etc. But this girl and I started getting closer. We started talking everyday, hanging out, just us two, all the time. I started realizing that I started liking her. Not only is she drop dead gorgeous, but it was her as a person that I started falling for. Our conversations and our hangouts were always so much fun. And I am positive she started liking me back. If I didn't respond to her for hours, I would look at my phone to see multiple snapchats and text messages from her. In all of our pictures we take, we are literally on top of each other, and she would post these on facebook, to the point that everyone started asking me what was going on with her. I was unsure because i hadn't kissed her yet. Our mutual friend from work told me I should wait because she just got out of a relationship. So I waited. This went on for about 2 months, and then after going out to the movies, I finally tried and she told me "I think we're better off as friends". We ended up hanging out a few days after and talking about everything, and I played it off so smoothly. I told her how I really liked her and I wanted to kiss her for awhile. It seemed that she hadn't made a decision yet. She even told our mutual friend that our conversation was great and really fun. After this tho, I told myself I needed to distance myself from her, but there was still an influx of snapchats and texts from her side to me. So I went along with it. We went to a Weeknd concert, still hung out, worked out together. This was all in the past month, and I started falling hard for this girl. Even her best friends came up to me and told me how they wanted me to win, and thought I was best for this girl. However, this semester, I've been smoking weed way too much and its been causing me a lot of anxiety and paranoia. I was high all the time and our conversations weren't natural anymore, from my side. Every time she would text me, I couldn't hold conversations with her like before. I had so much anxiety, like why is this girl always talking to me, knowing I like her, but didn't let me kiss her that day. We have a 110day snapchat streak. We have been borderline dating for like 3 months now. I'm almost sure she noticed this change in me too. So I finally quit smoking for the past 2 weeks, and am starting to feel like myself again. So then this week, I told her, that meeting her was once of the best things to happen to me. And things changed fast. She told me the day after she only sees us as friends. But "friends" don't do what we do. We're keeping the snapstreak alive, which I don't even care about anymore. Anytime it gets close to breaking, she sends me a snap and I respond. I know shes also been hanging out with this new guy a lot too. I'm not jealous, I just feel some kinda way. I've remained very calm and collected with her after. Our conversations are slowly going back to how they were. But we're hanging out in 2 days to talk about everything. I'm pretty sure I'm going to cut her off after this day as I don't want to be the sucker who likes her as she progresses with this other guy. But if there is any chance, what can I do or say to make things go back to how they were? I want to either date this girl or cut her off completely. Thoughts? Thanks for taking the time to read this.
xUnknown Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 You need to cut it off. You should have cut it off when she told you she wasn't interested. Essentially, you were her rebound. You were there for her so she could give her attention to you, instead of her ex. She used you instead of facing the reality of a breakup. You essentially let her by keep talking to her. Stop the "snapstreak" now. Tell her you can't continue to be just friends with her and if she is seeing someone else, it is best that you bow out of her life. Chances are, that relationship will fall apart and she'll come back to you wanting to either A) be friends again or B) Give you a shot. I would suggest you don't do either and simply tell her that you think she needs some time alone to figure out where her head is at, especially with it being after a break up. Time to find another person to start the streak with. I will say, I was there. I was the same person as you. Talking to this chick every day. She and I actually hooked up, but then the convo died down. I was her rebound. It sucked knowing that, but then again, she was a 10/10 so I just said screw it, it was an experience. 3
smackie9 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Dude you should have given it up the first day she said "I only see us as friends"....this whole time you have been her emotional tampon to get over her BF. just because a girl send you photos and crap doesn't mean she sees you as a BF. If she isn't sleeping with you by now, she was never into you in the first place. Sorry but you should never ever invest yourself to someone you are not even in a relationship with. 1
winny Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Yes please stop this immediately else u will get hurt big time.
TheTraveler Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 We have been borderline dating for like 3 months now. You guys weren't dating. You were buddies.
Author rp512 Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 (edited) I agree with all of you guys, and I always knew this in the back of my head, that hey I might just be a rebound after all. But she was hot, and well, after my last relationship before the summer, I kinda needed someone new too to get my mind off that. Last night I sent her a text because I thought she was avoiding me. I said "Look (girl's name), if you don't want to talk to me, just tell me, and I promise you, you'll never hear from me again". I wasn't just bluffing, I kind of got really annoyed with her. She was texting me within seconds after that, telling me she didn't mean to act that way...blah blah. It was kinda funny to me. Look guys, I've been settled on cutting it off with her for awhile know, that I'd be ok with that. So my plan for when we meet up this week it just to take her out (I've never taken her out on a date), have a great night like we usually do, and then just end it. Ending something on a good note and not communicating with the person again, in my opinion, always will keep them thinking. For me, I really don't care anymore. On to the next I guess. Edited December 8, 2015 by rp512
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