EnglishTea Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 My boyfriend of several months broke up with me around a month ago, his reason was "I don't know what I want" which of course left me confused, because he couldn't explain it (or maybe he didn't want to explain it to me) We broke all ties, haven't spoke since and I've ended up on his Facebook profile after re activating my old profile after a moment of weakness and saw that he is dating someone else. I've now deleted him off it, so I won't be able to see anymore! I'm hurt and confused, I don't know how to take this information. Did he break up with me to be with her? (It still says he's single on Facebook even though there was a comment left saying they were in bed together...) he did know this girl whilst he was with me as its his sisters friend. Now my mind is racing wondering if he cheated on me, if all his family knew about this but never thought of telling me? If we live nowhere near each other and he did have feelings for her whilst being with me surely the truth would be better? I know his actions shouldn't bother me as we aren't together, but I'm still hurt at the idea of him not knowing what he wants but now he's dating this new woman? I just don't understand. I'm left quite hurt and lost. Was wondering if anyone had some advice please?
SunlightJune Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 My ex said the exact same thing right after I dumped him and then begged for him back but he was already ENGAGED to his ex within 3 months. He said "I don't know what I want". Girl, from here on out, whenever a man says those words to you - you can be SURE that there is another person in the mix. It hurts a lot, I know, because I too didn't know why he was saying that to me. and the truth is, they really don't know what they want. they're confused and can't choose between either of the women but something sways their mind and they decide to go with one or the other - a reason that has nothing to do with your self worth, your looks, whatever, it usually has to do with a trivial reason, my ex's reasoning I deciphered was that she was a safer bet, she wouldn't leave him like I did, so he chose her. his reasoning for leaving you and choosing her might be something just as trivial that he THINKS he wants or knows - and maybe he does. Chances are yes, he was cheating. Get mad, get angry, then let it go and realize you escaped a bad situation. Not only that, but when a person jumps from one relationship to another, the chances of them lasting aren't good, because a person always needs time to heal between relationships, otherwise its just like slapping a bandaid on it, and we all know what happens to bandaids, they fall off. The point is, now's your chance to find the right guy for you. How good will it feel when you meet a guy who cares about you so much more than he did? 1
CarrieT Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 My boyfriend of several months broke up with me around a month ago, his reason was "I don't know what I want" which of course left me confused, because he couldn't explain it (or maybe he didn't want to explain it to me) Nine times out of ten, the "I-don't-know-what-I-want" line is given because there IS already somebody new in the picture. Oftentimes, the excuses given are "we need space" (so he/she can explore the new relationship), "I'm not good enough for you," (because there is someone else distracting my attention), and "I need to work on myself" (which really means there is another person in the picture.) I am sorry you are going through this, but he did you a favor by breaking up with you before having the new relationship. It doesn't matter if he new her beforehand and/or cheated. It is done and time to move on.
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