kiki2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I posted on the coping forum and just found out he is with someone else but with a girl I suspected he cheated on me with. His sister made friends with her on Facebook so it must be true. We broke up 4 months ago so he has probably been hiding her. Feeling devasted after 7 years just before we were supposed to be buying a house he is galavanting with a younger girl. I can't stop crying
SunlightJune Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 My ex got engaged to his ex gf 3 months after we broke up. I never had evidence of him cheating, but there was a very suspicious moment I experienced while dating him near the end of our relationship. I still don't have any answers. What makes it even more confusing, is he was begging for me back 2 months after we broke up, and proposed to her a month later? The best piece of advice I can give to you, is be glad. Be glad that you don't have to waste anymore time with THE WRONG GUY. and trust me, he IS the wrong guy for you. You, like me, have been sparred. We have been set free to find someone who is right for us. I've also learned to always trust your gut instinct - isn't it funny how our gut already knows well before our brain does? If they could bottle and sell women's intuition, they would. 1
PegNosePete Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 His sister made friends with her on Facebook so it must be true. Why are you facebook stalking his sister?
Author kiki2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 We are friends on there and it popped up. I forgot to hide her as she rarely posts
PegNosePete Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Unfriend, block, problem solved. While you're at it, unfriend and block anyone else who is associated with your ex. 1
Author kiki2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 Yes will do. I'm angry because I feel like I've been gaslighted. In fact I probably have. No wonder it was all my fault - guilt transference! Will get better eventually, you are all right there is someone better out there.
mountains Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 You can unfriend everyone associated him like was suggested or even deactivate your own for a while. I have found it has actually helped me temporarily deactivating mine a little since I don't see friends posting couple pictures or inviting me to holiday parties and mentioning to bring my ex because some don't know we broke up. I uploaded my contacts, so friends recommendations will pop up if their email or phone numbers are linked to their account. So, I just deactivated my account for the time being. I will reactivate it on my birthday, Christmas, and New Years since it is the only way to contact some of my friends/coworkers, but will deactivate it again after each one of those days. Just another alternative
Itspointless Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 So after-all he was a cheating ahole, sorry that option turned out to be true. Well as I said in your first thread, if so than he really is not worth you. Be kind to yourself!
Author kiki2015 Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 Yep! Well of course he denied it but really I'm not so stupid. She's 9 years younger than us, just finished being a student and did same IT course as him at same uni so I'm sure he's enjoying sharing his 'expertise' with her. I'm happy at least my women's intuition was spot on and will stop blaming myself for everything now, I thought I was going crazy there at the end when he started picking fights over the fact we didn't always eat our meals at the table and it bothered him! It's not even in my top 1000 dealbreakers 1
Neffer Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 Being overlapped does sting, but it makes it easier (I find) to get over them as you no longer have an illusions of them being a good guy. So, no real loss other than the damage to our ego, which fades. You know exactly how slimey and weasely they are - and who wants a cowardly cheater for a boyfriend? This new girl will likely have the same thing happen to her a few years down the road. People who monkey branch have no character to speak of and it becomes ingrained behavior. They never learn and just repeat the same BS over and over. And you are so right - always trust your gut!
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