womanisanisland Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 How do I stop guys from becoming interested in me? I'm a post grad student. I have a career goal in sights. I am very busy, and will never be interested in any guy and in being in a relationship altogether. I thought I'd already made myself clear on the matter. But nooo, that doesn't stop them from showing interest. Frankly, I find all the attention annoying, and I wish they'd all just not notice me and, God please, leave me alone.
Samhain Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Have a bath in crap and shave your head, jeez who knows? Tell them you aren't interested and keep doing that. It isn't exactly a life threatening issue! 3
Hughes101 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 How do I stop guys from becoming interested in me? I'm a post grad student. I have a career goal in sights. I am very busy, and will never be interested in any guy and in being in a relationship altogether. I thought I'd already made myself clear on the matter. But nooo, that doesn't stop them from showing interest. Frankly, I find all the attention annoying, and I wish they'd all just not notice me and, God please, leave me alone. This post is actually quite attention seeking in itself (about your "problem") It reminds me of girls who post on facebook something like"this randon guy asked me out tonight.. said it was my destiny. Like hell!". 8
TunaCat Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Must be nice to have that "problem" Seriously, tell these guys you aren't interested in anything with them. It's not that hard.
RedRobin Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Welll.... this does sound just a little gratuitous, but I'll bite... After my divorce, I wanted nothing to do with men romantically. I felt like I had a 'vulnerable' stamp on my forehead... guys were coming out of the woodwork... Approaching me in grocery stores. A lineman climbed down from a telephone pole to ask me out when he saw me walk into a shoe store. Crazy! It seriously bothered me. The last thing I wanted was to get involved with a guy when I was in that state. Oh, and I was completing a PhD at a very competitive university too. I watched the movie "Elizabeth" with Cate Blanchett one night... That scene where she chops off all of her hair and gives herself to England... yep, that's what I did. Chopped off all my hair. Gave myself a crew cut. It actually worked... It didn't hurt that I was living in the gay capital of the South at the time... and having a butch haircut meant that I was going to have to approach if I decided I liked women better, lol. Popped out of it about a year later... About the time my hair was growing out and starting to look cute again. 1
winny Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 How do I stop guys from becoming interested in me? I'm a post grad student. I have a career goal in sights. I am very busy, and will never be interested in any guy and in being in a relationship altogether. I thought I'd already made myself clear on the matter. But nooo, that doesn't stop them from showing interest. Frankly, I find all the attention annoying, and I wish they'd all just not notice me and, God please, leave me alone. start wearing a fake engagement ring. 1
kitty12345 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 You don't need a man but you might want one ! Huge difference. You are giving out a vibe that you don't need one. That attracts men like crazy if on tops you are pretty etc etc A guy will come along , when you least expect it and your barriers will break. He will push through to you ( no pun intended )
kitty12345 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 start wearing a fake engagement ring. Doesn't stop many guys
Author womanisanisland Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 (edited) [Trolling defense redacted]........ these guys are MY CLASSMATES. I'm good friends with them. I'm certainly not rude or stuck up on anything! (Unlike what some here on the board assume I am. It makes me sad.) I made it clear since first year that I won't be entertaining suitors until after boards and license are done, but they approach me anyway. It's been two years since then. I'm tired of having to repeat myself every time. Please don't judge me too hastily. THANK YOU FOR UNDERSTANDING. Edited December 8, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
PegNosePete Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I'm good friends with them. Tell them that if they value your friendship then they will cut the carp. If they don't cut the carp, unfriend them. It's really not rocket science.
Timshel Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I'M NOT A TROLL. Here I came because I needed help but all I get are snide comments. Thank you so much. And before you get your pants all in a twisty mess, these guys are MY CLASSMATES. I'm good friends with them. I'm certainly not rude or stuck up on anything! (Unlike what some here on the board assume I am. It makes me sad.) I made it clear since first year that I won't be entertaining suitors until after boards and license are done, but they approach me anyway. It's been two years since then. I'm tired of having to repeat myself every time. Please don't judge me too hastily. THANK YOU FOR UNDERSTANDING. Ummm....ok....but so what? I mean in the scheme of things, is this really a problem you are losing sleep over? Is this disrupting your ability to function normally in your day to day life? If you are very attractive, get used to this 'challenge' and learn how to graciously remain unruffled by this affliction. Smile, decline and get on with it.
Author womanisanisland Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 (edited) Welll.... this does sound just a little gratuitous, but I'll bite... After my divorce, I wanted nothing to do with men romantically. I felt like I had a 'vulnerable' stamp on my forehead... guys were coming out of the woodwork... Approaching me in grocery stores. A lineman climbed down from a telephone pole to ask me out when he saw me walk into a shoe store. Crazy! It seriously bothered me. The last thing I wanted was to get involved with a guy when I was in that state. Oh, and I was completing a PhD at a very competitive university too. I watched the movie "Elizabeth" with Cate Blanchett one night... That scene where she chops off all of her hair and gives herself to England... yep, that's what I did. Chopped off all my hair. Gave myself a crew cut. It actually worked... It didn't hurt that I was living in the gay capital of the South at the time... and having a butch haircut meant that I was going to have to approach if I decided I liked women better, lol. Popped out of it about a year later... About the time my hair was growing out and starting to look cute again. Haha! Nice story. I'm glad you got out of it. And thank YOU for taking me seriously. You don't need a man but you might want one ! Huge difference. You are giving out a vibe that you don't need one. That attracts men like crazy if on tops you are pretty etc etc A guy will come along , when you least expect it and your barriers will break. He will push through to you ( no pun intended ) That's what everyone says. They want me to get a boyfriend NOW. But I can't NOW. Until after school, at least. And I've been telling them this for two years. Never stopped them. Thank YOU for taking me seriously. start wearing a fake engagement ring. My parents will freak out! And thank YOU for taking me seriously. Have a bath in crap and shave your head, jeez who knows? Tell them you aren't interested and keep doing that. It isn't exactly a life threatening issue! Must be nice to have that "problem" Seriously, tell these guys you aren't interested in anything with them. It's not that hard. I've been telling them that. Every single time. For two whole years! You be in my shoes, and then tell me you don't get tired of it after so long. A person can only take so much of it before breaking. That's on top of the mind breaking school work. And thank YOU for taking me seriously. This post is actually quite attention seeking in itself (about your "problem") It reminds me of girls who post on facebook something like"this randon guy asked me out tonight.. said it was my destiny. Like hell!". #humblebrag I'm serious about this. This whole thing is driving me crazy. Even my parents are keeping a hawks eye on me because I have to study. Yes, it's already affecting my studies. I cannot avoid those guys or be rude to them because they're my classmates. And I genuinely like them. Just not like enough to consider breaking my own rules and secretly date. No, I will not treat them like crap just so they'll stop courting me or something. THANK YOU FOR UNDERSTANDING. Edited December 8, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author womanisanisland Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 Tell them that if they value your friendship then they will cut the carp. If they don't cut the crap, unfriend them. It's really not rocket science. I might have to someday, if it goes on. I hope it does not come to that because I like them very much back, but just not enough to pursue a relationship. So far they never said they're directly wooing me so I can't say anything. It's not in our culture to be upfront about these things. THANK YOU FOR TAKING ME SERIOUSLY. Ummm....ok....but so what? I mean in the scheme of things, is this really a problem you are losing sleep over? Is this disrupting your ability to function normally in your day to day life? If you are very attractive, get used to this 'challenge' and learn how to graciously remain unruffled by this affliction. Smile, decline and get on with it. For two whole years, but I'm not used to it at all. Guess it's because of how I'm raised huh. Never been in a relationship before, and none of the guys in high school and college even so much as glanced at me. I was perfectly happy with it. I am losing sleep over it. And it's affecting my studies and my peace of mind. I can't ask my parents about it because they will be mad at me. They don't want me to boyfriend. And no, can't secretly date even if I wanted to. If I ask my friends they will just push me to get a boyfriend. In fact they're doing that now. None of them are single. I will learn to do just that. It seems I lack grace under pressure. I'll make it my New Years resolution to correct that. THANK YOU FOR TAKING ME SERIOUSLY.
Author womanisanisland Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 tell them you're a lesbian. Lol haha I could, but my parents will kill me before I even so much as mention it. That's highly frowned upon where I come from, and even more so in my own family. THANK YOU FOR TAKING ME SERIOUSLY.
sportygirl89 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I promised myself no dating until next semester when I get closer to my boards. I've gotten way more attention from guys. I was in a grocery store in work out clothes. A guy told me I had the most beautiful smile and he just had to tell me that. I was like I'm in work out clothes. I was thinking how could he find me attractive in work out clothes .
stillafool Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Cut your hair off and draw spots on your face.
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 tell the guys that your'e not interested you're a friend of Ellen's. Don't tell your family. You're trying to bat these guys off with a stick aren't you? not you're family members. Say three words " I am gay" and then they'll hopefully leave you alone.
Redfisher Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I can understand how you feel, Although most on here are single and looking so you will encounter lots of ribbing and joking about it. I'm not really sure what you can do..... You told them straight up right? Good luck. 1
AspenBaldwin Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Maybe you are too attractive and the boys can't help themselves. Not sure what you can do to stop the sexual unwanted attention you are getting. Some of us ugly people will never have to deal with this issue. Tell them you are a lesbian. Wear awful glasses. Don't wear any make up. Wear baggy clothes.
d0nnivain Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Men like a challenge. You present yourself as a challenge. Since polite hasn't worked, try rude. Just ignore them but beware by rejecting all these potential suitors now there may come a time when there are no suitors & you will have blown your changes. You can successfully pursue a post graduate degree & fall in love. People multi-talk all the time.
Glitters Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I agree with kitty12345 ! You better get a boyfriend !
Toodaloo Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Its easy. 1. Wear baggy unflattering clothes. Preferably a hoodie at least 2 sizes too big and never wear anything other than jeans or tracksuit bottoms. 2. Cut out all make up 3. Keep hair style very plain 4. Keep head and eyes down 5. Never smile 6. Slump shoulders Its what I do when I don't want to be noticed and it works. When I want to be noticed I 1. Pop on a bit of make up 2. Brush my hair 3. Wear more flattering clothes 4. Smile 5. Stand up straight Also works every time... 2
kitty12345 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I have news for you ! A guy is watching you all the time and is going to sneak up to you , take my word ! ( don't get creeped out ! That's how my big brother got his wife ! )
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