whiskerbiscuit Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I hope you want to read a novel, since I don't know how to abbreviate this. Let's see. I worked with this girl (she is 26, I'm 42) for two years. We always spent a lot of time around each other at work and she was fairly flirty at times, but I really wasn't, work being work and all that. So she got let go a while back for attendance issues. Then I made my move and asked her out, no hesitation on her part. We had several dates and things were moving nicely. Then bam right after a really fun date she starting sobbing and said she had to move back home (couple states away) since she hadn't found a job. When? In 3 days.. and all the time up until then was a trip she had planned for months. So that sucked. The kicker of that aspect is that I had some stuff at her place, was planning on coming by to pick it up and say goodbye. Well she just up and left. Texted me that the door was unlocked, I could go get my stuff. Whoa. We would text back and forth occasionally while she was gone with weeks in between at times. I always initiated. Recently in a reply she mentioned that I could come over and get a few other things that she still had? I was confused, turns out she had been back in town for 3 weeks! So I stewed on that for a few days. Asked if she wanted to meet up soon. A whole day goes by with no reply. Assuming the worst, and not really caring that much, I sent another message to the effect of guess not. She replied right away, omg, I'm so sorry, I forgot to hit send! Uh, ok. So we met up, had a great time, she said she didn't let me know when she got back in town because for one she was very busy getting moved in (completely plausible!) and also she thought I was mad because of how she left. Swears she despises goodbyes. OK, I can see that. Like most women she always has her phone on her. She won't look at it when we're together, but I know she's always on the thing. Prefers texts but takes forever to reply, hours or sometimes not at all. After our last date she was very clear she wanted to keep seeing me, but the slow responses really send a mixed message. I'm really not sure what to make of this. Most women I date are much better with communication, and this one has come right out and said she sucks at it. But again, most women I date aren't 16 years younger. I really like this one, but she has put me through enough of a rollercoaster already. Oh, I should admit that after she left I got a little sad and let too many feelings show.. and I do also know she is casually dating another guy which adds a whole other element to this. What should I do, how does this look from the outside? I really like her but from the too many feelings text a while back till now I have been prepared to move on. I don't want to though, it's almost like she knows I like the chase. Am I wasting my time or do I just need a few pro tips to get her locked in?
winny Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Sorry but she is not that much into you. You are more like an option and you seem too much into her.
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