Vero Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 To keep things brief, there is a girl at my high school that I've been friends with since senior year began. She is so adorable personality-wise and we laugh at all the same things really. I asked her to homecoming and we had a very good time. The problem is that I can't seem to get over myself on how I'm not THAT attracted to her physically. I'm KINDA attracted, but it's not what I feel it should be. I know what it feels like to be sexually attracted to someone. I try but my ego and expectation are stopping me from any type of relation, and I don't want to date her and then call it quits in the middle. I feel like a complete jerk for judging someone this much when I'm probably that attractive either. Should I just leave her alone? Date? Idk
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 It's homecoming not a marriage proposal hun. Does asking someone to homecoming come with the expectation that you're a couple now? If not, you're under no obligation to date anyone you're not attracted to. Good luck.
ChancesAre24 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 To keep things brief, there is a girl at my high school that I've been friends with since senior year began. She is so adorable personality-wise and we laugh at all the same things really. I asked her to homecoming and we had a very good time. The problem is that I can't seem to get over myself on how I'm not THAT attracted to her physically. I'm KINDA attracted, but it's not what I feel it should be. I know what it feels like to be sexually attracted to someone. I try but my ego and expectation are stopping me from any type of relation, and I don't want to date her and then call it quits in the middle. I feel like a complete jerk for judging someone this much when I'm probably that attractive either. Should I just leave her alone? Date? Idk If your not sure that you like her than leave her alone but if you have a good time with her than ask her out. If you had a good time together than I would say there is a chance. 1
smackie9 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 This is what the friends zone is all about....strong emotional attachment without sexual attraction. You date someone because of sexual attraction....if it's not there, it's not going to be there, you can't force it to happen. And to add you don't want to mislead her, and then break her heart. Girls do this to guys all the time. Now you can see what it's like on the other end. 1
carhill Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 High school and college, that age in general, is about learning, trying things and settling on one's style of interpersonal interaction. IMO, simply look at the homecoming event as a nice memory and move on and try something else. 1
Buddhist Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Leave her alone. Pity dates aren't a compliment. I'm certain she would much rather be with someone who does find her attractive. 1
Author Vero Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 I am well aware of the fact that homecoming doe not mean anything relationship-wise. I only mentioned that to support that fact that that I like her as a person enough to ask her to homecoming and that it was fun.
Sweeetie Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Don't do it. I dated someone for a year who was not physically attracted to me and let me tell you that it was one of the worst experiences of my life, not to mention severely ego-crushing. Every day was a struggle to be noticed and as the girl you end up feeling like that's all you deserve. Please don't ruin her in this way. 1
Erik30 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Let her go. You're doing the both of you a favor. If you would date her, there's a huge chance you would quickly dump her for someone who you are attracted to, making you (and her) feel even worse than now. And she also deserves a guy who is totally into her. 1
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