broken guy Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 There is no way I can call her now or text her. I dont know her number off the top of my head so thats good. I do, however, know her email addresses.. I read her last message to me one last time about her knowing it was over and I had to move on. The final sentence of "please contact me if you still want to be friends" is very finite. If I dont contact her, she will not care (although she says she does), if I do, she gets what she wants; me back in her life as she thinks Im great (or shes guilty, who knows!) I still have made no decision wether to contact her or not and, if I did, what I'd say. I know I wouldnt get angry with her as its pointless. Maybe just say Im sad about everything that happened, I wanted to work it out, that maybe in time I could be her friend again and I will miss her. Also say that she does not need to know about my family breaking up as its not her problem anymore. Dunno, what do you think?
pioneer Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 deleting her number is a good idea, but some how i feel it will end up back on your phone. I tried it several times, thought the last time i had to contact my ex, shed changed her number, so now i defintely wont be contacting her again
Marshbear Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 Forget her. You do not want to be "just Friends". This is all she wants and she is just being nice and giving you hope that will not materialize. Don't fall for the friends trap. If your such a great guy why is she dumping you? Does she want a not so great guy. She is just stringing you along because of guilt. Practice NC and don't contact her. If she really wants to be your friend she will contact you, but she probably won't. It's over, as she said, so be strong and find someone who appreciates the great guy you are. Peace...
westernxer Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by broken guy If I dont contact her, she will not care (although she says she does), if I do, she gets what she wants... Then don't contact her.
Author broken guy Posted May 31, 2005 Author Posted May 31, 2005 Yup, I most likely wont be contacting her until I leave the country, just to say bye forever. I do still have a high chance of running into her and the new BF though as we are in Japan and the foreign people hang out in the same joints. What should I do then? Leave the bar? Stay? I think I should leave in case it happens.
suegail Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 If you know they'll be there, why go to the bar? Stay out of the bar. There must be other ways to spend your time. I recommend the library...
AndrewJ Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Stay away from this lady, She will continue to victimise you now that she has power over you. You are her lil furry play and she will only bring sorrow
Author broken guy Posted June 1, 2005 Author Posted June 1, 2005 Well, if I dont go to any of the bars then I wont be able to go anywhere really! There are only 5-7 places all the foriegn people go. I'd have to go to a different city just for a night out! Its going to happen, Im pretty sure I will walk into a bar or she will walk in with the new BF and BAM! I'm out for the count. I was also reading some old posts regarding NC. There was one from Universe about just coming onto the scene once or twice with the ex just to show how you have improved and give her some final happy memories of me, just to keep my memory alive in her of what she has given up on. Its a thought, she is not one for mind games so NC will, I think, just be the end if I do it. I have not spoken to her for maybe 2 weeks when I sent her a text message about home. It just so happens that even MORE crap has happened to me in the past 2 days with my new job letting me go and MORE problems at home. I have not told her these things. I am thinking (ONLY thinking!) about mentioning that my brother is making things worse at home and I had an interview for a job that pays great money and informing her that its our friends birthday this week and I am going to his party on Sat. Maybe, maybe not. I can act cool I think, but I just have to remember her face/body/hair and it drives me wild! Incientally, I would not be inviting her to the party!
AndrewJ Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 Stay away from this lady, She doesnt want to be with you. Things will only get wors for you if u persist to pine for her.
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