rastafari Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 i have no desire to talk to my ex at this point. she knows all my fealings about the breakup because i wrote her a few notes after the fallout. i went thorugh the whole wuss bit at first and brought milkshakes by her place. i also texted her like 15 reasns why i loved her like a moron and recieved "this is very sweet of you, but you shouldnt do this to yourself." back...next time i saw her she gave me a big hug and wass all gitty, and was asking me how i was, it was very strage. i wasnt up for mixed signals because i started to go into the phase where i was just pissed at her for hurting you so much, and i didnt need that crap at the time(BS like she cares, just too fake for my likings) my unstable self (at the time) sent a very mean text to her a week later, she was pissed and didnt talk to me at all (which would be great now.) but i screwed up i believe and oppoligized, and i told her thats all i could be now is mad. she said she understood. from that point on i started NC. but then she ran into me on the street while i was sitting. i tried to avoid her completely (becasue feelings were to akward) by looking away. but she stood right in front of me and asked me all types of questions, basically pulled a 15 minute conversation out of me. that conversation made me all smily and i just wanted her after that. (i played it real cool though, i think ) see i cant have that in order to get over her. so next time i see her its going to be like that because we havent talked for a while (been 3 weeks so far!), so she will want to ask about everything and i dont want to hear her BS. i dont want her hugs and all that crap. im such a softy and too nice though, and dont want to be rude. has anyone else delt with this crap, any suggestions? am i breaking this "NC" if she pulles another conversation out of me. my freinds say "be an a*shole,who cares; right"....i dont know if thats the best approch or what. what to do. and if im myself its going to be huging her and getting wound up in a 15 minute conversation. yikes
DesertDweller Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 If you see her coming, run the other way. Make some excuse as to why you have to go, then go! Don't answer even one question or you'll be coerced into answering more. Good luck!
ErinErinErin Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 You're on the right track- I know what it's like to be getting over the ex and then when you see them BAM! you love them all over again and you're back at square one! Be an as*hole to her the next time you see her. Not totally rude, but try being indifferent...
Author rastafari Posted May 30, 2005 Author Posted May 30, 2005 thanks guys. i guess it doesnt matter much anyways.hurt me, so why should i care!...any other suggestions?
ErinErinErin Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Hmm...for suggestions...I know that since I have left my ex alone (after the "you'll always be one phone call away" comment and making me feel like his dorrmat), he has been showing up where I work and he was calling me about dumb sh*t that he didn't have to. My suggestion would be the suggestions that were given to me by many wise people here- leave her alone and let her come back to you. She may or she may not, but by letting her think you are getting on with your life, the chances are better that she will gain more interest in you. Just play it cool for now- sit on your hands- read books- go for walks- talk to friends- get on with your life the best you can and I can almost guarantee this will drive her crazy if she is still interested...
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