Beepeear Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Hey everyone, First of let me inform you all I have OCD which may explain some things in this description, thanks Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 5 months now (2 days away) and in the first few months everything was fine, yeah we had one or two tough times but apart from that, we were fine. She is everything I was looking for, she's sweet, kind and beautiful. However lately I've been feeling kind of different, we had a really tough time the last week or so, with her breaking up with me a few times and just filled with bitter arguments and what not, and that really stressed up both out but we got back together and when we did, I was really happy, I wanted that. However lately I have been suffering with HOCD and you don't understand how confusing that can be when you know you want your girlfriend but your mind is trying to convince you that you're gay. so during that time I was so stressed out, couldn't think straight, didn't get excited about seeing my girlfiend and now it seems to have carried over into my relationship Let me explain, me and my girlfriend used to go on dates when we first met like go to the cinema, go shopping etc. And now we don't do it as much, we go shopping from time to time and I took her out for her birthday meal the other day and it was really fun, but other than that she either comes to my house or I go to hers, which I think may be the problem, I may be bored, because I know what exactly is going to happen when I'm with her at our houses, it just doesn't seem as...exciting anymore. We have discussed a lot and invested a lot of thought into our future, marriage, housing even children and I know it's not s long time to discuss it but, it felt right at the time, but when I think of it now, I don't feel as, excited. I love my girlfriend, I can't imagine my life without her she helps me so much, with my anxieties and my OCD and although she can cause them sometimes, she does help. It upsets me thinking of when we first met and when we first dated because back then I didn't have to worry about this. I could feel my feelings. And it's scaring me that maybe it's going to force me to end it. I'm also finding it hard to get excited about other things in my life such as Christmas, last week or so I was so excited as I'm getting a new dog and now when I think of it, just, nothing, I feel nothing. Do you think I should let her go? I don't want to see her with someone else as it would break me but, if it's best for her I'll do it, I'm really scared I never thought I'd let my mental illnesses control the feelings I have for my girlfriend. Am I just stressed/anxious? Or is it something deeper like me falling out of love? Thank you for reading
notinept Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 I wouldn't consider what you describe as anything specifically to do with OCD, I'd say we've all gone through those same feelings at some point in a relationship. Stress can really confuse one's entire mental-state, emotions get all mixed up into one confusing jumble, add on top of that your OCD and yeah you have a situation that begs for a bit of stress-reduction. The cliche "space makes the heart grow fonder" is often true, so why not just take a break from each other for awhile ? (a few days, a week or ____ ) A little time away from your s/o often helps clarify feelings, and then after the break see how you (both) feel before you do anything rash (like breaking up) ?!
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