Jesse101 Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 I feel like a child writing this but I have to vent and get it off my chest. I met a girl a while back and instantly liked her... I went a good month with basically ignoring her to not develope deeper feelings for her knowing that I would have to see her everyday. I spent many nights just wishing that there could be something between us. I let the fear of rejection get to me so many times. One night I said screw it and sent her a text. We ended talking till 4 in the morning which I then confessed my feelings for her. She instantly said, with saying she even liked me or not that she could see it going somewhere. I was surprised because she didn't even say yea I like you too.. She just went right into talking about us being something. I got so happy and since then I can't stop thinking of her. We have went out a lot and I never get bored with her. She was my first kiss and basically my first relationship that I actually have had. It's been two month since I confessed that I like her and right now we have been taking it slow.. not giving eachother the boyfriend/girlfriend tag yet.. I was scared about this at first because iv been told that the "Taking it slow" thing usually is nice for this isn't going anywhere.. But I respect her a lot because of it because she might actually want this to be long term.. I know it's crazy but I think I'm falling in love.. I can picture being with her for a long time.. Hopefully forever. This feels so amazing..
yourownchicken Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 It sounds like you guys have good chemistry together. That's good. Still, if you have that feeling of taking it slow is a nice way saying nowhere, well I'm not sure. Each relationship goes it's own way. Perhaps you may want to try something new. I remember from my relationship that sometimes things moved forward because "it just felt right". So when I say that, don't just jump her bones next time you see her. But maybe do something impulsively. An example is when you just said screw it and sent the text. Just make sure that: A) its not forced. Love is natural, not just something you can rush. B) She is on board with you. You seem surprised that she gave you a shot. Make sure you keep a cool head about it. Like you said, you guys aren't at the boyfriend/girlfriend tag yet. Don't let your emotions steamroll past lol. And again this is all just personal opinion. Maybe you are doing everything wrong lol (It doesn't sound at all that you are, but you just don't want to be close minded to the idea that everything is going well. Who knows, you said she didn't really respond she liked you back. Maybe she was testing the waters.) I don't want to deflate you or anything. Love just happens to be a rather unpredictable thing at times. If it's right then your heart will know :3 1
Author Jesse101 Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 It sounds like you guys have good chemistry together. That's good. Still, if you have that feeling of taking it slow is a nice way saying nowhere, well I'm not sure. Each relationship goes it's own way. Perhaps you may want to try something new. I remember from my relationship that sometimes things moved forward because "it just felt right". So when I say that, don't just jump her bones next time you see her. But maybe do something impulsively. An example is when you just said screw it and sent the text. Just make sure that: A) its not forced. Love is natural, not just something you can rush. B) She is on board with you. You seem surprised that she gave you a shot. Make sure you keep a cool head about it. Like you said, you guys aren't at the boyfriend/girlfriend tag yet. Don't let your emotions steamroll past lol. And again this is all just personal opinion. Maybe you are doing everything wrong lol (It doesn't sound at all that you are, but you just don't want to be close minded to the idea that everything is going well. Who knows, you said she didn't really respond she liked you back. Maybe she was testing the waters.) I don't want to deflate you or anything. Love just happens to be a rather unpredictable thing at times. If it's right then your heart will know :3 Thanks for your reply! I have kept a cool head about it. I haven't said anything like "I can't believe you gave me a chance" cause I'm assuming that that's a turn off... We both know we're eachother stands in this whole thing and she made it clear to me that she's taking it slow because she's been hurt before which is understandable.. I don't have a bad feeling about it not working out at all. I just can't believe how it all has turned out so perfectly.. It came when I least expected it as well.. Of course it's early and the "honey moon" phase will fade but I hope I still have this desire for her down the road.
Zippy2000 Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Don't force it and why should we habe tah s like boyfriend and girlfriend so soon . Its important from the start you act like a man. No whining, no emotional begging and definetely no constant contact. You have to have your own life too. That means taking it slow but remember everyone has their own timescale of what being slow is. Its also important from the start your fun, strong headed and someonene is popular. You want her to come to you and everything you do up the the stage of becoming boyfriend and girlfriend will be ingrained in her mind so have fun in the beginning and it will lead you to your pathway of love. You just have to play your cards right.
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