Iceshowers Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 This is mostly directed towards guys, BUT, I understand both genders probably do it (don't want a gender fight lol) I'm not dating this one guy who did it to me (twice) anymore, but whenever he got sick, he would drop off the face of the earth. He wouldn't text for like 1-2 days until he got better (literally, not even a "yo, I'm sick" text). So is this an actual thing? Do others do this when they're sick? They don't text, call, etc? It popped into my head last night and I've never before encountered a guy/date that would go into turtle mode when he's sick. Link to post Share on other sites
Wewon Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 I'm probably not the best to answer this, but I don't always text back in what people consider a timely fashion. Until recently i didn't know that a few hours between text was a problem. It could be when they're sick they simply have their phone charging in another room and aren't paying attention to it. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Some people love to receive sympathy and attention, others like to be left alone. It's pretty rude to simply not answer you, though. Even if he's the "leave me alone" type, he could at least tell you he's sick and that's why he's not responding. It doesn't take much effort to write a text even if you are dying of man-flu. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dobielover Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 I think it's a convenient excuse to explain their silence. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
xcupid Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 For some guys, yes, this is an actual thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Will they text back if they are on the operating table? Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Not a guy, but a text takes 30 seconds. That's a lame excuse unless he's otherwise incapacitated. If you care about someone you don't go radio silent for days at a time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iceshowers Posted December 7, 2015 Author Share Posted December 7, 2015 Will they text back if they are on the operating table? Ok, but we're talking about him getting the FLU SHOT and another time he got food poisoning or a cold (not sure, I never gotten a explanation on that one). Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 This is mostly directed towards guys, BUT, I understand both genders probably do it (don't want a gender fight lol) I'm not dating this one guy who did it to me (twice) anymore, but whenever he got sick, he would drop off the face of the earth. He wouldn't text for like 1-2 days until he got better (literally, not even a "yo, I'm sick" text). So is this an actual thing? Do others do this when they're sick? They don't text, call, etc? It popped into my head last night and I've never before encountered a guy/date that would go into turtle mode when he's sick. I'm not the most talkative person when I'm sick. I'd rather just be left alone unless there's something really significant that comes up. I also didn't get my panties in a wad if a guy didn't text me or call for a couple of days anyway especially early in the dating scenario. If it was a week, yeah, I'd be wondering. He wouldn't text for like 1-2 days until he got better (literally, not even a "yo, I'm sick" text). -- How long were you dating him? Are you saying you reached out to him and he didn't respond? Or, you were just waiting for him to get in touch with you? If that was the case and it was only a couple of days, no big deal really. My current SO and I don't talk for a couple of days sometimes even if we're not sick. We don't have to be up each other's asses all the time. Not only that, if we are constantly talking/texting, there isn't a whole lot to talk about when we are together which is about every other day usually. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iceshowers Posted December 7, 2015 Author Share Posted December 7, 2015 I'm not the most talkative person when I'm sick. I'd rather just be left alone unless there's something really significant that comes up. I also didn't get my panties in a wad if a guy didn't text me or call for a couple of days anyway especially early in the dating scenario. If it was a week, yeah, I'd be wondering. He wouldn't text for like 1-2 days until he got better (literally, not even a "yo, I'm sick" text). -- How long were you dating him? Are you saying you reached out to him and he didn't respond? Or, you were just waiting for him to get in touch with you? If that was the case and it was only a couple of days, no big deal really. My current SO and I don't talk for a couple of days sometimes even if we're not sick. We don't have to be up each other's asses all the time. Not only that, if we are constantly talking/texting, there isn't a whole lot to talk about when we are together which is about every other day usually. We dated for 3 months, and I reached out to him because we alteast communicated a couple of times throughout the day and he wasn't responding (good morning, how's work, look at this funny meme, wanna go out to eat, good night). I didn't blow up his phone though, it was just standard text and once no reply, I didn't text again until the following day to make sure he's ok (before he finally texted that he was sick for 2 days) Link to post Share on other sites
xcupid Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Ok, but we're talking about him getting the FLU SHOT and another time he got food poisoning or a cold (not sure, I never gotten a explanation on that one). If you've ever had the flu or food poisoning or a bad cold then maybe you'd be more understanding - he's SICK. Link to post Share on other sites
Versacehottie Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 For some guys, yes, this is an actual thing. Yep. It's ridiculous. but there you go. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 We dated for 3 months, and I reached out to him because we alteast communicated a couple of times throughout the day and he wasn't responding (good morning, how's work, look at this funny meme, wanna go out to eat, good night). I didn't blow up his phone though, it was just standard text and once no reply, I didn't text again until the following day to make sure he's ok (before he finally texted that he was sick for 2 days) After 3 months dating it's a very poor excuse. If I am sick I just let the other person know I'm sick and going to bed don't worry if you don't hear from me. How hard is that? Also I don't care how sick they are they still need to get up and pee and it takes longer to pee than to send a text so what's the real excuse for ignoring your text? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iceshowers Posted December 7, 2015 Author Share Posted December 7, 2015 If you've ever had the flu or food poisoning or a bad cold then maybe you'd be more understanding - he's SICK. I have gotten sick multiple times, but I can take 2 secs to respond to a text when someone is worried that I haven't reached out to them in a period of time. Link to post Share on other sites
Versacehottie Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Ok, but we're talking about him getting the FLU SHOT and another time he got food poisoning or a cold (not sure, I never gotten a explanation on that one). Well the important thing is to discern which is him losing interest/blowing you off/using it as an excuse for no contact. And the times when it is true and the guy is really sick (however minor but to him treats it like its major). But yeah good guys with no reason to drop off face of earth, can act like complete babies and drop everything when they are sick. It's a thing. I think that you didn't get an explanation on the second one points to the fact that he may have been using it as an excuse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iceshowers Posted December 7, 2015 Author Share Posted December 7, 2015 Well the important thing is to discern which is him losing interest/blowing you off/using it as an excuse for no contact. And the times when it is true and the guy is really sick (however minor but to him treats it like its major). But yeah good guys with no reason to drop off face of earth, can act like complete babies and drop everything when they are sick. It's a thing. I think that you didn't get an explanation on the second one points to the fact that he may have been using it as an excuse. We're not dating anymore, for a somewhat reason you stated. But it occurred to me because I actually was feeling sick last night and for some reason had a flashback to him and his 2 days of hiding lol. Too bad I had work the next day so can't pull that off. Link to post Share on other sites
Versacehottie Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 We're not dating anymore, for a somewhat reason you stated. But it occurred to me because I actually was feeling sick last night and for some reason had a flashback to him and his 2 days of hiding lol. Too bad I had work the next day so can't pull that off. Oh yeah, I got that you aren't dating anymore. But the sick thing will probably come up with other guys in the future. If you are close and far enough into dating some will drag you into babying them! But yeah, I think it sounds like your situation with this one was just an excuse. The same sickness that have them off this planet and off the grid for 2 days are the same ones that a lot of women still show up at work, on time and with tissue in hand! Sorry guys, call it like I see it 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 We dated for 3 months, and I reached out to him because we alteast communicated a couple of times throughout the day and he wasn't responding (good morning, how's work, look at this funny meme, wanna go out to eat, good night). I didn't blow up his phone though, it was just standard text and once no reply, I didn't text again until the following day to make sure he's ok (before he finally texted that he was sick for 2 days) Eh, I dunno. You said this happened more than once though, right? How many times? If he was sick a lot, I might start wondering. Link to post Share on other sites
Myragal Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 What does being 'sick' mean? Delirium from the Plague? I've never been so sick in my life where I couldn't take 30 seconds to text or make a quick phone call. So what if somone likes to be alone when sick? That's justification not be considerate and return a text? Being a mature adult means doing things that take a bit of effort. if a man really cares about you he makes an effort. A decent man who cares is aware of your feelings. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 I've met several men who shut down while they're sick. I find it best to ride it out, give them space and circle back around eventually. If they're still distant, then obviously "I'm sick" was an excuse. But yeah, some guys do do this. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 I barely text even if I'm feeling 100%. Link to post Share on other sites
MiddleManMike Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 I rarely text anyone, I simply cannot stand text messaging. So to me anyone that texts is rude. Link to post Share on other sites
Gold Pile Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 In general, when sick most women will work at things as much as they can. In general most men when sick will completely shut down and hope/demand that a woman waits on him hand & foot. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 What does being 'sick' mean? Delirium from the Plague? I've never been so sick in my life where I couldn't take 30 seconds to text or make a quick phone call. So what if somone likes to be alone when sick? That's justification not be considerate and return a text? Being a mature adult means doing things that take a bit of effort. if a man really cares about you he makes an effort. A decent man who cares is aware of your feelings. I second this. Also and more importantly, who cares?! I mean, you're not dating him AND this seems to be a pattern with him so why over analyze it? He is who he is and you either accept it or confront him about it. Link to post Share on other sites
newt Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 I tend to text back faster when I am in public or at work. When I'm home I barely notice a text because i am watching TV and on my laptop. Link to post Share on other sites
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