vyacc1 Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 My girlfriend and me fought alto about a trust issue. I found calls and texts to her ex during the time of conception of the baby. She swears she never slept with anyone else and her and him was her just responding to him and not being rude. This caused a lot of mistrust so we fought about stupid things. She has always told me she was madly in love with me even wanted me to marry her. We got in a fight about a phone call it was bad enough that I slept at my moms. I had 4 missed calls from her at 3am all a minute apart. She left a voice mail saying she had a man over and if I came home to get ready she didn't want us to see each other. When I hear this I call she said she just said it, but I had to go to work i needed cloths. When we fight she takes my phone or keys and I had to get to work so I got a police escort to get stuff for work. after work I went to my moms to sleep. That night police serve me an order of protection. I am crushed. This means I can't see the baby born or even name the child or the child might not have my last name. Why would she do this? I am very hurt i love her this was my family. Does anyone think she will lift the order?
mrldii Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 She may or may not. Regardless of if she does or not, if I were you, I'd be serving her an order of my very own: an order to determine the paternity of her unborn child. Based on the results of that, I'd decide if I'm going to be in the delivery room and whether or not the child will have my last name. Best of luck to you, OP... 3
Author vyacc1 Posted December 7, 2015 Author Posted December 7, 2015 I agree. I have an appointment to with a lawyer tomorrow to fight this order as well as discuss paternity. The problem with paternity is that you have to wait until after the baby is born. The pre-natal tests they do have the courts don’t like because it raises the chances of miscarriage. Courts think that risk outweighs getting a pre-natal test. There are some new noninvasive tests but I have to find out how expensive they are and if they hold up in court. My other question is to anyone that has had a girlfriend do this just to lift it later. She has had the I love you more than anything then next day she is saying things to keep my trust issues in place. She back and forth has got worst as the pregnancy has gone longer. Her parents hate me completely now after listening to records of us fighting. I had no clue I was being recorded. We fight like all couples and of course in this recording it was just me being upset after she said she said something very hurtful to me on purpose to upset me. I would just like to know if anyone has experienced this or just a pregnant wife or girlfriend getting so mean and hurtful or want to leave the relationship during pregnancy. I am just confused.
Author vyacc1 Posted December 7, 2015 Author Posted December 7, 2015 I just wanted to update the situation. I woke up this morning to an email from her. It was the full lyrics to the taylor swift song " I almost do". I cant reply because of the order of protection. Why email me 2 days after she issued the order with a love song?
stillafool Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Because she's cray, cray. Ignore her email and talk to your attorney. This chick is going to land you in jail. Are you sure the baby is yours or her ex? 2
PegNosePete Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 On what grounds did she get the protection order? One can't simply get a protection order because one wants to. One must have good grounds along with supporting evidence etc. 2
Author vyacc1 Posted December 7, 2015 Author Posted December 7, 2015 Not true read about orders of protection. She had an ex-parte hearing she can claim what she likes with no evidence. I have to wait 10 days to fight it.
NoLeafClover Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 In order to get a ppo is easy but evidence needs to back it up. Since this falls under a domestic relationship, one would have to fear for their lives to get a ppo. PPOs generally are split in two, one for stalking and the other for fear of physical damage being done to then, this does not including verbal or emotional abuse. I know this stuff because my ex tried to get a ppo for stalking on me when I tried to contact her after I broke up with her the next day. Unlike you, the ppo was denied but by law they had to set a hearing where both parties argue their case. It is a mind f*** to be in such situation but after her case was denied I was glad to never see her face again. Now every state is different but under what circumstances did she have this ppo on you? What is she trying to hold you back from? When is your hearing? Did you threaten her when you were recorded? What was said that was life threatening to her that you believe might not help your case? You need to work on making the argument that protects w.e you said while being recorded. Perhaps explain she left a voicemail that she had another man over to provoke you. You can present your voiceMail. Get a lawyer ASAP and don't let this person hold a ppo against you without a fight. Another word of advise for you..that nothing positive comes out of a partner that calls to tell you another guy is over or get a ppo on you then contact you knowingly if you say anything back they can send you to jail. It sucks you have to share a baby with her but that is a choice you had to make. Just be careful with her. Personally I'd go to the police and let them know she is trying to contact you how can she be scared of her life.
Lostweekend Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Well, where I live an order of protection applies to both parties. This means that she should not be allowed to contact you either, even if she got an order against you! Won´t go as far as to use harsh words and descriptions but she is either very emotionally unstable due to the pregnancy... hormones etc, or she is in fact emotionally unstable, PERIOD! I would seek legal advice to be honest! How can she have such an order placed against you and yet be allowed to contact you at the same time!?
Author vyacc1 Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 I now have an attorney to fight this for me. The pregnancy has turned her like this. She was not like this before. She loves me more than anything one minute, and then the next day she wants to say things to purposely fight. I do start them a lot of times because of miss trust issues that date back to June do to me catching her talking to her ex. She claims it was just her responding to him and that’s what the texts shows. The texts I found were innocent. I did call that guy and he says they did not have sex and only hung out once, and nothing physical took place that they were just friends. My trust issues come from that fact that it was an ex, she hide it from me and him because she told him I was not around that we broke up 2 months prior. The main reason the trust issue is in place is the conception dates are right in the middle of them talking. That is the big issue to me. We broke up for 4 days during the time she called him. The first week we were together she was till responding to his calls and texts that’s when I caught it when we got back together. The doctor said conception probably took place between June 13th and the 21st I know for a fact nobody else was with her unless it was the 18th the 19th or the 21st. We split up on the 18th and she called me on the 2oth we hung out till like 3 am and she had her son so I doubt he came over then. we were still separated and she seen him in person that one time they both claim on the 21st the 22nd we got back together and that’s when I noticed he was still contacting her I caught it the 25th. According to the doctor the 13th thru the 17th is the most probably days due to implantations pains on the 2oth.
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