loverage21 Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 My mind went into hyperdrive at work and I had a breakdown and my supervisor sent me home involuntarily. I am an EMT and he said he does not want me driving an ambulance in this state of mind. I am a part timer so I rely on covering peoples shifts in order to make money. And I fear I will be fired/no longer be called in to work.
hotpotato Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 Oh no. No advice, but i hope you can solve your situation!!!
MidwestUSA Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 Therapy. I don't know how many of us have said it, but you have a very unhealthy obsession. Good luck. I would think a higher adrenaline job such as an EMT wouldn't leave you time to obsess (as opposed to retail or something mindless). Your boss made the right call, sad to say. I'm a nurse, and was sent home once because I was going to have to put my dog down that day. Not only did they spare my patients, but they gave me more time to spend with him. But that was a one time thing, based more on compassion than anything else. 2
Got it Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 Maybe you will see therapy now. You are depressed and have an unhealthy fixation. You need professional help. Please help yourself. 2
loveflower Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 - There are plenty of fishes in the sea - You can't win someone or something if you think you can't lose If you believe those, you will no longer have the problem. I don't speak those lightly, they come from my personal experience and journey. I used to really into someone and believe that I can not love anybody else. Now, the only thing I don't understand is why I was so stupid. I wish I came to this forum much earlier, some people here really smart here, so I don't have to take a long long time to figure these wisdom out myself. and, don't listen to your uncle. Consider yourself the rule, rather than exception: Keep pursuing a woman won't change her mind. you will just looked pathetic to her and become a nuance. Don't you think pride is more important than a woman? after all, without pride, who are you? of course I have never really 'chased' anybody, because I have always value d myself, no matter people don't usually give a crap about me.
Author loverage21 Posted December 6, 2015 Author Posted December 6, 2015 - There are plenty of fishes in the sea - You can't win someone or something if you think you can't lose If you believe those, you will no longer have the problem. I don't speak those lightly, they come from my personal experience and journey. I used to really into someone and believe that I can not love anybody else. Now, the only thing I don't understand is why I was so stupid. I wish I came to this forum much earlier, some people here really smart here, so I don't have to take a long long time to figure these wisdom out myself. and, don't listen to your uncle. Consider yourself the rule, rather than exception: Keep pursuing a woman won't change her mind. you will just looked pathetic to her and become a nuance. Don't you think pride is more important than a woman? after all, without pride, who are you? of course I have never really 'chased' anybody, because I have always value d myself, no matter people don't usually give a crap about me. No I am Analyzing the emotion of love in general. Not anyone in particular.
Gloria25 Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 No I am Analyzing the emotion of love in general. Not anyone in particular. But if your analysis of "love" is to the point where it is affecting your ability to function (work, eat, sleep), then maybe you'll benefit from help from a counselor, therapist, etc. because that person would have the skills to extract info from you, your past, family, etc. to see why "love" is linked to what's going on in your head. Look, I'm going on 40 and still trying to sort out myself when it comes to relationships, but thankfully have made significant milestones and changes over the years... In like my 30's I had a situation with a dude where I sat down and for the first time didn't focus on him, love, etc. I focused on 'ME'. I said to myself "Why am I acting this way?" And it finally "clicked" to me that there's something going on with "me" (i.e. my dysfunctional childhood, physically/mentally abusive dad) that drove me to pursue certain relationships, etc....At the end of the day, it all comes back to "us". I did try therapy a few times and yes, I never got "comfortable" enough to tell a person staring me in the eye things I did, what's going on in my head, etc. - especially when that person has the power to lock you up in the Krazy house and/or have their own agendas/biases/subjectivity in how they dispense therapy/counseling....So, I held back a lot of info and really didn't open up - so, they didn't get to know enough to help me. Think of it as taking your car to a mechanic. You can't have the mechanic just randomly looking under the hood. You have to give the mechanic enough info for him to look for certain things. But, also there are experienced/skilled mechanics (i.e. my fav podcaster) who can figure out what's making you tick w/o barely any info from you. I found it was easier talking to sorta "call-in" therapists. I went online and did a search and I don't know, some of them say they are licensed. Some of them were ok, and I called them on the regular to just talk. They, and my fav podcaster helped me get to where I am - not 100% healthy, but pretty darn better than I was. I guess it was easier for me to let go and tell them what was on my mind cuz they couldn't see me and would never meet me in real life. But yes, "call-in" therapists/counselors are expensive....I did burn a lot of money talking and sometimes didn't get good advice cuz I tried to shorten my call to save money. My fav podcaster's show is free, but then she only has a few min per call and sometimes even she gets pushy for you to "get to the point" and IMO, doesn't properly address some callers' issues. So, glad you've come here to LS. Like loveflower said, lots of people here with good/interesting experiences, perspectives, opinions...but, if you are having trouble functioning because your issues, maybe it's time to get some help outside of LS. Good luck, BTW, I feel ya...I don't get what it is about RLs and who we love/care about to affect us to the core. Cuz, when I'm having issues with a guy - yep, it's like the world is in grey-color. When I'm happy with a guy, a zoo animal could fling poop on my head and I'd just laugh it off and move on to the next animal exhibit. 1
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