dazednconfuse Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 (edited) Hi all - I am a professional who happens to be a lesbian. Ex and I broke up in 2013, I relocated to another state. We broke up because I wasn't able to take step to move in together and not able to be attentive while dealing with depression of dying parent. She met someone at the end and basically dumped me. I don't blame her as at the end as I wasn't very pleasant to be around. But replacing me so fast was a crap move. We were best friends and she basically strung me along thru her relationship because she wanted me still around. That relationship was up and down and they ended up breaking up after a year or so. In the meantine, I met a great woman. I was hung up on ex for our first year and was painfully honest about how I felt. But, we had a great relationship. The only negative is that she isn't financially stable. We grew together and she helped me heal my broken heart. Fast forward 2.5 years and I had to relocate back to home state (knew this when I left years prior). Gf and I said we would work through long distance and figure things out. While I am not out, I want to have a home with a partner - it just scares the **** out of me. All while I have been back, I on and off talk to ex who is now single. She supposedly hasn't had another significant relationship since the rebound (My name for it lol). It's weird, I love her but don't feel spark like I expected but still we talk about a future together - but never do anything physically. I want to just to see if something is there but don't if that makes sense. She is very smart, very independent but defientely has issues resolving conflict. We fight like crazy now like we did at the end. I guess I only remember the good parts. Love both women. The ex is for some reason in my soul (but we just don't click like we used to - can't this be resolved?). We talk about we both wanted a real second chance but walls are so far up. But the current gf is very sweet, caring but lives in another state. I also have thoughts of getting over my fear and having her move here but I can't do that to her if I don't plan to make it a forever thing. How do I resolve and get closure one way or other with ex so I can truly move forward? I feel like a crappy person I yearn to wake up with my current but check phone for ex messages. Sigh Edited December 5, 2015 by dazednconfuse
AspenBaldwin Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 If you try to have it both ways you'll end up with nothing. Make up your mind and stop playing with peoples feelings.Damn it.
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