nadzz Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 So I went out a few days ago and this guy and I kept eyeing each other. Towards the end of the night I had a now or never mentality and went up to him and just started talking to him. My question is: do men find it sexy when a woman approaches them or is it a bit desperate?
Xiomn Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 So I went out a few days ago and this guy and I kept eyeing each other. Towards the end of the night I had a now or never mentality and went up to him and just started talking to him. My question is: do men find it sexy when a woman approaches them or is it a bit desperate? If a girl approached me I'd have a high level of respect for them from the outset for them initiating since that is probably very rare since most women have been brought up and brainwashed into believing the man has to initiate. 4
Author nadzz Posted December 5, 2015 Author Posted December 5, 2015 If a girl approached me I'd have a high level of respect for them from the outset for them initiating since that is probably very rare since most women have been brought up and brainwashed into believing the man has to initiate. Yeah that's why I felt afterwards that it was a bit weird. Should I let him take the lead with everything else from now on so he doesn't feel like I'm controlling things?
oberkeat Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 If a girl approached me I'd have a high level of respect for them from the outset for them initiating since that is probably very rare since most women have been brought up and brainwashed into believing the man has to initiate. Exactly. I want every woman reading this who thinks that it is unacceptable for a woman to approach a man to get that thinking out of their head immediately. I would love nothing more for a woman to approach me for a change, especially since I've experienced nothing but rejection in recent years. Unfortunately, my experience has been that even if a woman likes you she will not approach. A shame. I always always always encourage women not to be afraid to approach men first. This does not make you look like a slut or desperate at all. Just approach him, give him your number and he will take care of the rest.
BrocasHelm Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 Personally, when I like a woman, I don't even bother knowing who approached who first, as long as it gets us talking. Me, her, if we get along then it's irrelevant.
Xiomn Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 (edited) Yeah that's why I felt afterwards that it was a bit weird. Should I let him take the lead with everything else from now on so he doesn't feel like I'm controlling things? No, but also leave enough space between you every and now and then to see if he decides to initiate instead, that way you can judge his level of interest. But if you were the one to ask me out i'd probably expect you to set up the first date at the very least, after that I guess anything can change. Hopefully that doesn't come off as contradictory to my last message. Edited December 5, 2015 by Xiomn
smackie9 Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 Assertive woman here.....I had np asking guys out, and all were positive experiences. Not one thought I was desperate or easy. Some women feel they lose their value if they make the first move and stick with that.....too bad, they are missing out.
sportygirl89 Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I am wondering the same. I am trying to invite the guy I like at church to a sporting event (which I know he would love). We get told to not take the guys thunder growing up. I think that's why we hold off. I'm waiting to get closer to the event (since guys forget a lot of things haha) and can get him alone (we are always in group setting at church ALWAYS).
Author nadzz Posted December 6, 2015 Author Posted December 6, 2015 I am wondering the same. I am trying to invite the guy I like at church to a sporting event (which I know he would love). We get told to not take the guys thunder growing up. I think that's why we hold off. I'm waiting to get closer to the event (since guys forget a lot of things haha) and can get him alone (we are always in group setting at church ALWAYS). wouldn't u rather just get it over with? what's the worst that can happen? if u wait too long and he says no, maybe u will miss your chance to go with someone else anyway, my story turned out well. I have been letting him take the lead on everything since I gave him my number. He keeps talking to me and asked me out on a date yesterday so hopefully this gives u the courage u need
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 I wish women would approach men more often, and even one of the Coaches/Instructors as RSD even said so too, in this video interview right here with a woman, he says it at 21:32 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IFR3ow-M3M 1
Rydo Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 I've been approached loads of times and I always like it even if I don't really fancy the girl. I have been approached twice recently but my gf came over to put a quick stop to that haha. Girls here can be very forward but it is always flattering and never weird or desperate.
Author nadzz Posted December 6, 2015 Author Posted December 6, 2015 I've been approached loads of times and I always like it even if I don't really fancy the girl. I have been approached twice recently but my gf came over to put a quick stop to that haha. Girls here can be very forward but it is always flattering and never weird or desperate. thank you for your male perspective. would you go as far as asking a girl out just because she had the courage to approach you or would u just forget her after the first night?
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 I wish women would approach men more often, and even one of the Coaches/Instructors as RSD even said so too, in this video interview right here with a woman, he says it at 21:32 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IFR3ow-M3M I mean one of the coaches, instructors from RSD
Truth34 Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 thank you for your male perspective. would you go as far as asking a girl out just because she had the courage to approach you or would u just forget her after the first night? I think a lot of this depends on the night. What setting was our convo in. If she is just lukewarm or passing the time, maybe not. But if genuine interest is there, I'd definitely ask her out if I was interested.
SwordofFlame Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 So I went out a few days ago and this guy and I kept eyeing each other. Towards the end of the night I had a now or never mentality and went up to him and just started talking to him. My question is: do men find it sexy when a woman approaches them or is it a bit desperate? You should have approached. If he was the type of guy that would be turned off by that, than he would have approached you already. Clearly, that didn't happen.
newt Posted December 6, 2015 Posted December 6, 2015 I been approached twice in public and since I was shy I could not even have a conversation because it was unexpected.
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