supersot Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 (edited) I've been dating this new guy since October. It started out very casual, but the past few weeks, it seems like it could get serious. We have been spending a lot more time together. He is very close with his friends, and his roommate, let's call him John, is his best friend since childhood. I've met all his friends several times, and hung out with them. He mentioned several times it's John's bday and asked me if I wanted to do whatever they all end up doing tonight. I was wondering if I should grab a relatively cheap bottle of wine (like $15) and bring it over tonight for John? Does that look like I'm trying too hard? Is it weird? I really like this new guy and I want his friends to like me too, but don't want to come across as socially awkward. What does everyone think? Only appropriate if new guy was my actual boyfriend? (Which he's not- we haven't had a DTR talk yet) Edited December 5, 2015 by supersot
ExpatInItaly Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I think a bottle of wine is a nice gesture, if you're invited over to his place. If you're actually going to his house, I woudn't. I would just buy a celebratory round while you're out.
Author supersot Posted December 5, 2015 Author Posted December 5, 2015 I'm going over to their house. They live together. Then we are all going out somewhere. (Likely a bar)
Keenly Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 Guys are not like women in regards to gift giving and gift etiquette the way women are. Example: My roommate and I have been friends for ~13 years, pretty close. My best friend and I have been friends for about 10 years now, pretty close. Other than one single instance where I got my roommate season 1 of metalocalypse for his birthday, we have never once exchanged gifts, and it doesn't bother any of us. Lots of guys just don't do the gift giving thing. That being said, if this is some type of event your boyfriends friend is having and you two go together, you could say it was from the both of you if it was something you GENUINELY WANTED to do, and not something you are just doing to try and look good in the eyes of your boyfriend and his friends.
losangelena Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I wouldn't worry about it, especially if it's only been two months and y'all aren't even official. I don't think it would HURT, but I also don't think it's necessary. My ex and I were dating about 8 months when his bestie's birthday came around. My ex bought him a nice gym bag (he's kind of a juice head) and signed the card from both of us, but I didn't get him anything separately. I didn't even chip in for the bag, I just wrapped it.
Rydo Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I only gave my friend a gift for his 30th and it wasn't something that cost money. If my gf of a year got my best friend a gift I would still think it strange and unnecessary.
Author supersot Posted December 5, 2015 Author Posted December 5, 2015 Okay cool, totally not doing it then. I am just from a culture where if you go to someone's house you bring something, his friend is only turning 26 not exactly a milestone... I will buy him a shot or something that seems more appropriate.
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