Arwen82 Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 Right, I am in that situation where I am a bit confused about the relationship I am in since months... I have been dating this guy and I am very happy with him and did not really ask myself questions until now... We don't really label what we are we are taking a day at a time but my surroundings questioned me about where this is going and I don't really know and that added up some sort of pressure. I do know how he feels (he does not really talk about feeling so) and I have been hurt many times that I don't really remember what it is to be in love really... He is really kind to me ; we had a conversation about us a while back, he said he was happy about us, but he was worried he would hurt me as he struggle to fall in love ; in the meantime, he tries to spend as much time he can with me, I made him start running in competition, he listens and takes my advices, we made plans, and talks about next year holidays long term, sex is fantastic and I don't really see anything wrong; I asked if he wanted to date someone else or if he has been but this did not even occur to him... That's a lot of mixed signals and as he is a hard one to crack, emotionally speaking... So I don't know if he has feelings as I can't remember how it is supposed to be when you love someone. Or is it just that you are happy. I feel a bit silly as it is all blurry for me
Gaeta Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 How long exactly have you been dating? You have to look out for yourself, no one else will. If you don't clarify what is the situation between him and you then you may end up very hurt and disappointed. There are tons of threads on here exactly about the same situation as you and it ALWAYS has an unhappy ending. It seems if a man doesn't put a label on a relationship it's because he doesn't want one so if I were you I would I would have a serious conversation with this man. If he's not into relationship better end it now so you won't waste anymore of your time on him. 1
Ic1 Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 he was worried he would hurt me as he struggle to fall in love This part alone would worry me a lot. If those are his exact words he said he's not in love with you, and 'struggling' to!? 2
smackie9 Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I never could understand why people don't see things like this as a warning "I need to take things slow" "I like the way things are" "I'm afraid I will hurt you" "I struggle with falling in love" "I'm unsure what I want" "Why ruin what we have" "Why do we have to put a label on it". OP don't let him undermine your relationship with his "struggles to fall in love" crap. You are giving him all the control. It's time for you to revisit that conversation with him again before you invest yourself any further. If he gives you the run around, it will be plain to see that he doesn't want to invest any further than where he is at now.
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