DeterminedHusbanb Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 Is some weird crap, news that really bothers, and nightmares about every two weeks and a Zoloft prescription a "no_ go " if there is continuous improvements? I guess are combat vets considered damaged goods?
basil67 Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I'm on antidepressants so I'm hardly in a place to immediately dismiss someone who has mental health issues. I guess I would only stay away if his behaviour had a detrimental effect on the relationship.
Author DeterminedHusbanb Posted December 5, 2015 Author Posted December 5, 2015 Nope? Treats you like a queen, just has some tormenting memories that makes him want to hide out, but getting better.
SleeplessIn Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I've been married 20 years to a combat vet (Vietnam), and IMHO PTSD is not a show-stopper ... *but* if the vet has that issue, he needs to be pro-active in addressing it. In other words, get help -- there is very good help out there via the VA and area Vet Centers. Hyper-arousal and irritability can cause a lot of damage to relationships, and there are ways to cope with them. If he's in a marriage or long-term relationship, I'd also highly recommend that his SO read up on combat PTSD and gain a solid understanding of it -- it's not the same as other types of traumatic experience. It's very easy for a wife or SO to take moods and reactions personally when in fact they are not meant that way, and this is pretty important to learn. There are also medications that work well to reduce or eliminate some of the symptoms, such as difficulty with sleeping or having a tendency to combat dreams that result in hitting out blindly in sleep, kicking and so on. 1
AspenBaldwin Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 As someone with a paratrooper boot fetish I'll say: -C'mere babe!!!-
Author DeterminedHusbanb Posted December 5, 2015 Author Posted December 5, 2015 Sweetie! But are girls afraid of us? One thing for sure, I know how to protect you, with my life if necessary.
AspenBaldwin Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 (edited) Well, I guess that if you wake up sweating, screaming and kicking in the middle of the night it can become quite difficult to live with you, but if you are getting help and medication works, there's no reason for your partner to be afraid of you. Edited December 5, 2015 by AspenBaldwin
KatZee Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 Is some weird crap, news that really bothers, and nightmares about every two weeks and a Zoloft prescription a "no_ go " if there is continuous improvements? I guess are combat vets considered damaged goods? For a few months I dated a vet with PTSD/TBI. I didn't even recognize it at first, but then once he started opening up about his experiences, I noticed it. Inability to sleep, irritability, flighty, and pulled the "ghost" "shutout" move. I did a lot of reading on PTSD forums from spouses, wives, etc. And all the same stuff. How they'd be fine one second, the next abusive, the next into their cave for days, weeks, and frequently months. Only to come back, claim their love, and rinse and repeat the same behavior. I tried to stick with it but I don't think that sort of instability is something I'd be able to deal with. The women were so broken, so beaten down, and they all just stuck together for support telling each other to stick it out, be strong. Who wants to live like that? The sufferer of PTSD should get his/her stuff together first before bringing in a second party into a relationship. It's not fair, the lives of these women weren't pretty or anything to be envious of. It's a sad life of abuse.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I would say that I would date them, but have never had the experience so who knows..
d0nnivain Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 My DH is a combat vet. I now know what his PTSD triggers are & try to avoid them. It's not a show stopper per se but if it was particularly bad / violent, I would draw a bright line & require treatment & medication. While I appreciate that he can & would protect me, if it was him I needed protection from, that is very scary. I am fully aware that DH could easily kill me with his bare hands & has been trained in close combat where I would have minimal defenses if any. DeterminedHusbanb do you think your PTSD may be why your wife doesn't initiate sex? Is she possibly afraid that she will startle you & get hurt?
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