shrugshrug Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 I was dumped. We dated for 13 months. I wouldn't say I knew it was coming but I knew something was up. Over the past 2 months, my ex slowly started pulling away. When it initially started, he experienced some family trauma. Then, he picked up work hours and started experiencing health problems. He started treating me like he treats his friends i.e. he stopped wearing nice clothes around me, he started just texting me whenever, and then started hanging out with me whenever. The last injury seemed to kick things off. He went from regular communication to nothing. I asked what was going on. A day later, he texted me that the spark was gone and he wanted to end the relationship. I said that I cared about him but if that is what he wanted to do, then okay. His response was thanks for spending time with me. I was in shock initially but by Day 3, I was oddly okay with it. I am upset but not as upset as I thought I would be based off of how I felt about my ex. Friends keep mentioning all these emotions you feel when you get dumped, but I feel like I'm feeling them. I keep having people tell me I should've fought harder. But I don't know what I was supposed to fight for? I feel like I am missing something?
Nickr3023 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 I was dumped. We dated for 13 months. I wouldn't say I knew it was coming but I knew something was up. Over the past 2 months, my ex slowly started pulling away. When it initially started, he experienced some family trauma. Then, he picked up work hours and started experiencing health problems. He started treating me like he treats his friends i.e. he stopped wearing nice clothes around me, he started just texting me whenever, and then started hanging out with me whenever. The last injury seemed to kick things off. He went from regular communication to nothing. I asked what was going on. A day later, he texted me that the spark was gone and he wanted to end the relationship. I said that I cared about him but if that is what he wanted to do, then okay. His response was thanks for spending time with me. I was in shock initially but by Day 3, I was oddly okay with it. I am upset but not as upset as I thought I would be based off of how I felt about my ex. Friends keep mentioning all these emotions you feel when you get dumped, but I feel like I'm feeling them. I keep having people tell me I should've fought harder. But I don't know what I was supposed to fight for? I feel like I am missing something? Indifference is usually the sign that things are over. When there's anger and fighting, that still shows there's some kind of passion there still. When you just stop caring to even fight or argue about something....that's the beginning of the end. It possibly sounds like there was another girl in the mix too based on his actions. I'm sorry to put that in your head, but it would explain how he dealt with things (based on being on the wrong end of a cheater a few times)
Author shrugshrug Posted December 5, 2015 Author Posted December 5, 2015 (edited) I just realized there's a typo. I was in shock initially but by Day 3, I was oddly okay with it. I am upset but not as upset as I thought I would be based off of how I felt about my ex. Friends keep mentioning all these emotions you feel when you get dumped, but I feel like I'm not feeling them. I am just accepting it. I mean I feel like once someone makes a decision to break up, it's over. I am basing this off of my previous experiences in both positions in a BU. Also, I thought about it a lot over the past few days and I don't think there's anything to say. I feel like talking to him would make me angry and nothing good would come out of it. Edited December 5, 2015 by shrugshrug
Nickr3023 Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I just realized there's a typo. I am just accepting it. I mean I feel like once someone makes a decision to break up, it's over. I am basing this off of my previous experiences in both positions in a BU. Also, I thought about it a lot over the past few days and I don't think there's anything to say. I feel like talking to him would make me angry and nothing good would come out of it. Being confused is perfectly normal. There may be a day where you just out of nowhere break down and cry too. That's also perfectly normal. But to me it just sounds like you both just kind of ran your course and have accepted that. This may be the least depressing breakup story on this whole site haha.
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