smile95 Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 Has anyone ever broken NC and had a good outcome? I broke it before in the past and ended up more hurt, but it feel sweird loving someone and not telling them? What if I emailed him how I felt and he came back? Or what if Iemailed him that and he ignored me? I would feel worse! I hate having to hold my thoughts and feelings back. In the past, he will call me after I stop chasing him around for a while, so I guess I should realize that he will ignore me if Itry. One minute I am fine the next I freak that I will never hear from him again! Him breaking up w/ me would have really helped me with closure, but not telling me anything leaves me in limbo!
BrotherAaron Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 NC isn't a cure-all solution to everything. Sometimes, you have to go with your feelings and give in to an urge when you feel every bone in your body screaming at you to talk to somebody. Not contacting your ex is easy once you've really moved on, and for some people that happens sooner than later. When you honestly don't care about getting with your ex anymore, you won't even want to call your ex. NC is a way to fake it until you do feel better. It's not the end of the world if you do contact your ex, but you need to understand that it is unlikely that you two will get back together. The trouble people run into is that they want so desperately to be with their ex that they compromise themselves and persist long after the situation has lost hope, allowing the ex to manipulate and control them. So I ask, what's the point of contacting him? Are you hoping that he'll tell you how much he's really missed you the whole time? Because, if that's how he feels, common sense says that he'd have already told you. If he's not coming and telling you that he wants you back, then you know everything you need to know, and it's time to move on. In order to move on, you need to cut him out of your life - and that means no pictures of him, no special places you two would visit, no reading letters he wrote you, and - most of all - no contact.
johan Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 It depends a LOT on the circumstances. You just have to go with your heart and be VERY prepared to hurt more after contact than you did before it. After a couple of those calls, you are doing yourself absolutely no good by getting in touch, and I wouldn't advise you to try it. If you aren't sure, then you'll just have to follow your heart and take whatever blows you have coming.
Author smile95 Posted May 29, 2005 Author Posted May 29, 2005 I think I will NOT call him. I will be more upset. Right now, I just miss him, I do not want to miss him and be pissed at him for not answering. Thanks everyone. I guess if after time, he decides he misses me he will call ME. I guess it is a waiting game and if in the meantime, I move on, then good
loveisallaround Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 Focus on yourself and get over him. Thats the only way he'll come crawling/coming back.
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