Author Corduroy Posted December 5, 2015 Author Posted December 5, 2015 When he says comments, I'm envisioning things like "hey,what's up", "how's your day going?" stuff like that. NO. For example she posts a picture summiting a mountain, I say "Wow, that's whats up!!"
Author Corduroy Posted December 5, 2015 Author Posted December 5, 2015 Word. Some guys may appear interesting, so I swipe right. But if they send me a message saying "Hey", "Whats Up" or anything with lukewarm interest, I ignore. If they send me something incredibly corny like "I know your profile is fake, but can I get the name of the model you used?" I might roll my eyes or respond with something witty if I feel like it, but messages like that never turn into dates anyway. I need a man to comment on something from my profile or show real genuine interest. If you're not commenting on my profile but you're sending me something like "Good Afternoon [name]. How are you today? Hope you had a great thanksgiving." I'll answer that, but I'll also have to be mildly attracted to that man as well. (Sometimes I won't be very physically attracted to someone, but if they have an interesting profile, I'll swipe right). LOL, I was about to respond to this one girl saying "So I guess this is a fake profile, but can you tell me who the girl in the picture is, because she's hella fine!"
AspenBaldwin Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 Wasn't there a thread from a bearded guy complaining about the same thing?
AspenBaldwin Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 Here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/557536-why-i-m-done-online-dating
oberkeat Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 (edited) Don't just make "comments", send a message that is a little more substantial and engaging. Remark about something from their profile -- a hobby they list or activity they like. "hey, I read that you like X. I've never tried that. How did you get into that?" Or, "what's your opinion on (something currently in the news)? If they ignore it, they ignore it, so be it? But, a little more effort might go a little farther. I would not bother. The vast majority of women who do online dating, whether it is OK Cupid or Tinder or match, are just doing it for attention or an ego boost, not to actually meet men for relationship. Unless a woman is working 60 hours a week, or is generally unpleasant to be around, she should have no trouble attracting men in real life. All they have to do is just stand there in public and men will approach. Online dating is just entertainment for most women. Most women who do online dating do so with less than honest intentions. Edited December 5, 2015 by oberkeat
AspenBaldwin Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 One could argue that online dating is nothing but a booty-call for men.
newt Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I would not bother. The vast majority of women who do online dating, whether it is OK Cupid or Tinder or match, are just doing it for attention or an ego boost, not to actually meet men for relationship. Unless a woman is working 60 hours a week, or is generally unpleasant to be around, she should have no trouble attracting men in real life. All they have to do is just stand there in public and men will approach. Online dating is just entertainment for most women. Most women who do online dating do so with less than honest intentions. Not all the time, I just had a date on Monday with a woman from POF. 1
newt Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 One could argue that online dating is nothing but a booty-call for men. I heard a sad story of a woman having a one night stand with a man she met from POF and ended up pregnant. I just can't understand the mindset of someone who has unprotected sex the first time. 2
HowboutthemCowboys Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I would not bother. The vast majority of women who do online dating, whether it is OK Cupid or Tinder or match, are just doing it for attention or an ego boost, not to actually meet men for relationship. Unless a woman is working 60 hours a week, or is generally unpleasant to be around, she should have no trouble attracting men in real life. All they have to do is just stand there in public and men will approach. Online dating is just entertainment for most women. Most women who do online dating do so with less than honest intentions. You can also add in the huge number of women that signup, and then get cold feet when it comes time to actually meet in person. I'd say its a very small percentage of women that actually interact and use the sites/app for what its actually intended for. Agreed that majority just like the attention.
Omei Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 So much of the reasoning on here is over thought out, its really simple they are not interested, everyone is titled to their preference. When not interested most just dont engage why bother with false hopes. Date site is true to real life too in the way where maybe your on a bus yeah? and you might find 1 person attractive out of the 30 on there you could like them all you want doesnt mean anything is gonna spark up just because you fancy them.
mike_89 Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 Just come up with some ridiculous opening line that you know girls you'd like respond to but other girls won't. For example I have a very dark and sarcastic sense of humour, so the first thing I say to girls on Tinder is something retarded like "Hi, I hope it isn't too much of a red flag but I'm a serial killer and I was hoping you'd be my next victim" or "Hey I'm sorry to say but you look amazing, when are we getting married?". Most girls don't react but the ones that do usually lead to very fun dates because they have a sense of humour and can make me laugh. Just don't take it all too seriously.
Lois_Griffin Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 You don't know me. And yet, you still expect a bunch of strangers to know WHY these girls are ignoring you on tinder. :rolleyes: Alrighty, then.
Xiomn Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 I swipe right for everyone and get girls messaging me but I don't find them attractive so I don't message them back. So now you're wondering why do I swipe right to them in the first place? Well you already know don't you. It's because It makes me feel a bit better about myself. Mind you a lot of the people that I match are mostly unattractive people in my eyes, mostly overweight people too but it nevertheless makes me feel better than playing the game properly and hardly getting any matches at all which will make me feel bad. Swiping right is the best way to play it really if you think about it, 1) It gives you an ego boost 2) and at the same time if you do happen to match with someone you don't find attractive you can simply go onto their profile and unmatch them. win-win situation.
Author Corduroy Posted December 8, 2015 Author Posted December 8, 2015 (edited) The other day I sent a msg to a girl who ignored me saying "I assume your profile is fake, but would you do me the favor and let me know who the girl in the picture is?? She's bad & I would like to get to know her." Then she unmatched me. -___- This evening I came upon her profile again, I super-liked it & we matched again, wtf. So should I send another msg? She's really gorgeous, & she's given me a second chance! Edited December 8, 2015 by Corduroy
Xiomn Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Eh, it's not even Tinder when they ignore you, I've sent tons of messages out to people on both OKcupid and POF with substantial openers, genuinely taking an interest in what they say in their profiles and what not every single time and I wouldn't say I was the best looking person but I also wouldn't consider myself below average either but I still get ignored every single time.
Author Corduroy Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 So after all this, she finally replied! hahahaha. She said "heyyy" It's not much, but its something. Guess not all hot girls are stuck-up. I'm gonna wait to reply, just because
ManyDissapoint Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 Most girls I have matched don't have anything noteworthy to even make a witty comment on. My latest match that was attractive I said: "Good morning. Is it your birthday or something?" She replied: "Good morning. For what reason would you say that?" I said: "Because Tinder kept showing you one moment as 23, the next as 24. I like how you didn't dangle your preposition." Then total silence. What exactly are we supposed to talk about....to me chat evolves organically and I can banter like nobody's business, but it seems like women are waiting for the magic password to even get the conversation started. The ones I match with on Tinder seem quite full of themselves honestly, even though I'm generally more attractive than they are.
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