Corduroy Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 I don't get it, I match with girls on tinder, I send them a msg, but they ignore me. They're not robots either, they have IG, and I follow them, but they don't follow back and ignore my comments. We both liked each other, what's the deal? Happens a lot.
SwordofFlame Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 They have other matches that are better than you. Or they're just using Tinder for the ego boost and not taking it seriously? 1
kendahke Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 Have you asked them why they don't respond back?
Ic1 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 Some just "like" EVERYONE so they can just know who liked them. 2
Author Corduroy Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 Have you asked them why they don't respond back? I thought about it, but i would sound clingy or something.
SwordofFlame Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 Some just "like" EVERYONE so they can just know who liked them. Guys tend to do this because it's a lot more efficient. I would think most women would be drowning in matches if they matched everyone.
Author Corduroy Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 Some just "like" EVERYONE so they can just know who liked them. I super like them, then they like back. -__-
preraph Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 They're probably just teenagers or young girls on there messing around with no intention of doing anything. These apps are just a toy to some people. 1
kismetkismet Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 So I know it's maybe not the best thing to do, but if I was kind of on the fence about someone I would sometimes still press 'like' just in case they ended up being really interesting. But then sometimes their opening line would be really cheesy and it would put me off. Or they would say something not super interesting when i was busy or talking to other people and I would forget to respond.
Author Corduroy Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 So I know it's maybe not the best thing to do, but if I was kind of on the fence about someone I would sometimes still press 'like' just in case they ended up being really interesting. But then sometimes their opening line would be really cheesy and it would put me off. Or they would say something not super interesting when i was busy or talking to other people and I would forget to respond. So like, would you get turned off I said hello again without your response the first time?
kismetkismet Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 So like, would you get turned off I said hello again without your response the first time? I would mayybe try saying hi one more time, maybe ask them a question or say something more engaging than 'hi' though. If you're really interested. Remember that girls also get spammed with loads of "hi"s that they know are being sent to loads of girls just hoping one of them writes back. a "hi" or a canned message doesn't express all that much interest. If she doesn't respond to a second message though definitely move on. I also wouldn't suggest following girls on instagram until you've talked to them for a bit. Especially if they ignored your first message.
Author Corduroy Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 I would mayybe try saying hi one more time, maybe ask them a question or say something more engaging than 'hi' though. If you're really interested. Remember that girls also get spammed with loads of "hi"s that they know are being sent to loads of girls just hoping one of them writes back. a "hi" or a canned message doesn't express all that much interest. If she doesn't respond to a second message though definitely move on. I also wouldn't suggest following girls on instagram until you've talked to them for a bit. Especially if they ignored your first message. I usually don't say just "hi." Like for example I would say, "Hey! You look so familiar for some reason." I should add this happens with the "hot" girls, the average looking ones always msg first, but the hot ones seem stuck up.
Author Corduroy Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 You aren't hot or charming enough. You don't know me.
Erik30 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 Because a lot of girls have hundreds of matches, so they ignore the guys who aren't "perfect" in their eyes. And some people just collect matches for the ego boost.
radwimps Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 I wouldn't worry too much about it. In real life I have close to no trouble meeting women and going on dates. I get decent amount of matches on Tinder but 50% of them ignore me. The other 40% turn into bland conversations. The last 10% sorta has potential. Maybe 5% will turn into a real date. It's just the way Tinder works.
Author Corduroy Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 Because a lot of girls have hundreds of matches, so they ignore the guys who aren't "perfect" in their eyes. And some people just collect matches for the ego boost. I have around 300 matches, but don't ignore the ones that msg. I guess girls are different.
Author Corduroy Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 I wouldn't worry too much about it. In real life I have close to no trouble meeting women and going on dates. I get decent amount of matches on Tinder but 50% of them ignore me. The other 40% turn into bland conversations. The last 10% sorta has potential. Maybe 5% will turn into a real date. It's just the way Tinder works. Yeah, in real life its no problem getting girls, but they aren't what I'm looking for. Its kinda easier online because you can see their lifestyle, what they're looking for in a partner, etc. I'm also shallow, like 95% of them are unattractive, 3% decent, & 2% are f**king beautiful. lol.
Redhead14 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 I don't get it, I match with girls on tinder, I send them a msg, but they ignore me. They're not robots either, they have IG, and I follow them, but they don't follow back and ignore my comments. We both liked each other, what's the deal? Happens a lot. Don't just make "comments", send a message that is a little more substantial and engaging. Remark about something from their profile -- a hobby they list or activity they like. "hey, I read that you like X. I've never tried that. How did you get into that?" Or, "what's your opinion on (something currently in the news)? If they ignore it, they ignore it, so be it? But, a little more effort might go a little farther. 1
kendahke Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 what is an example of a message you'd send to them?
Redhead14 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 When he says comments, I'm envisioning things like "hey,what's up", "how's your day going?" stuff like that.
Erik30 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 I have around 300 matches, but don't ignore the ones that msg. I guess girls are different. Keep trying. (With other matches) You just have to find that girl who actually does want to talk. In my own experience, I would say that about 90% of matches are useless. They'll either ignore you, stop replying after exchanging a couple of messages, or quickly delete when you send something.
MissLY Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 I wouldn't worry too much about it. In real life I have close to no trouble meeting women and going on dates. I get decent amount of matches on Tinder but 50% of them ignore me. The other 40% turn into bland conversations. The last 10% sorta has potential. Maybe 5% will turn into a real date. It's just the way Tinder works. Word. Some guys may appear interesting, so I swipe right. But if they send me a message saying "Hey", "Whats Up" or anything with lukewarm interest, I ignore. If they send me something incredibly corny like "I know your profile is fake, but can I get the name of the model you used?" I might roll my eyes or respond with something witty if I feel like it, but messages like that never turn into dates anyway. I need a man to comment on something from my profile or show real genuine interest. If you're not commenting on my profile but you're sending me something like "Good Afternoon [name]. How are you today? Hope you had a great thanksgiving." I'll answer that, but I'll also have to be mildly attracted to that man as well. (Sometimes I won't be very physically attracted to someone, but if they have an interesting profile, I'll swipe right).
newt Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 I dont even take tinder seriously anymore since it's all based on looks
newt Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 They have other matches that are better than you. Or they're just using Tinder for the ego boost and not taking it seriously? That about sums it up. Lol
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