Ex is a criminal and he is stalking me what do i do??

[ana_11]

I met this guy when i was 22 years old. Everything seemed to go fine with us, he was charming. He took me to expensive restaurants for dinner, we went to the movies, out for nature trips, he seemed very nice and kind. I stayed over at his place many nights (he lives with his buddies) He lives out in the country. One night I noticed something was off, people were coming and going and I saw him go to the basement and bring out joints and packages of something that smelled like weed. My friends know him and told me he is a drug dealer. Then he became controlling, grabbed my phone out of my hand to check who I was talking with, when he caught me talking to a guy who was just a friend from school he became aggressive and then said "now ill drive you out to the middle of nowhere with no car and you wont be able to get back". Not long after this, I broke it off with him. I disappeared. He came to my work 2 months after and said to "give him another chance, that he is a great guy and that I should be talking to him no matter what" so I did. I got scared into it to be honest. After a while, I knew it wasn't going to work out because of his criminal ways. I noticed more but I don't feel comfortable writing it on here. I just knew I had to get away for good. I told him through text I don't want anything to do with him anymore, and he told me that "nobody will ever want me" and that "I have no idea who his friends are and what they are capable of doing to people" so I freaked out. I changed my number again, I got off of facebook and changed my workplace. fast forward 10 months, I make a new facebook and guess who sends me a friend request, him. I decline it. He keeps sending messages asking how I am, what my new phone number is, and that I "should be talking to him" . I thought he would forget about me that's why I waited 10 long months to get back on facebook and social media. Seems like this is not the case. I didn't reply, I blocked him but I am now worried. What can I do?? I dont feel comfortable reporting him to the police because I am scared.

[jen1447]

Most ppl who go all fatmouth are pretenders, so I wouldn't worry about the bigstuff talk. Just continue to completely and utterly ignore him - not a single crumb - and eventually he'll lose interest and go try to peddle his silly man-child insecurities on someone else.

 

btw, pot dealers are about as low-end a 'criminal' as there is. Right up there w/shoplifters in terms of danger and 'thug livin.'

[stillafool]

Maybe just stay off FB. There's nothing to gain there anyway.

[Ic1]

He's a stalking criminal. Bring in law-enforcement. Tell them of his stalking you, which is criminal weather or not he's a drug dealer. Then tell them of his work. Two different cases, but make sure they know his threats for the first case.

[truth_seeker]

Be safe: file a police report. This way there is a paper trail. Also, ask an officer to call him and warn him to back off. That should scare him away.

[stillafool]

. I dont feel comfortable reporting him to the police because I am scared.

 

Um, this is when you should report him to the police. He's on probation more than likely and his parole officer will make him cease contact with you. He will then gladly leave you alone because he doesn't want to go back to jail. Do it. If you don't protect yourself who will.

[Gaeta]

"I have no idea who his friends are and what they are capable of doing to people"

 

Take that and go to the police. That is a threat and should not be taken lightly.

 

You're afraid? So what. What's the alternative? Whether you go to the police or not you are still afraid so GO. He's counting on you not going, he thinks you're weak and you'll never report him so prove him wrong.

 

Did you create a new membership on here because you're afraid of him?

[Glitters]

You have all the reasons to get law into place but some people break that as well. For many , it's enough to keep them away

[d0nnivain]

What can I do?? I dont feel comfortable reporting him to the police because I am scared.

 

Call the police. When they go to investigate him for stalking & harassing you they should find his drugs & take him off your hands.

[William]

Folks, thanks for your considered responses to the topic. Unfortunately, the starter was one of our hydras so I closed this up after taking care of them.