congrats19 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 So my ex and I were together for 4 years(we're now 22 and finishing college). Long story short he broke up with me out of nowhere for no real reason. He said he just felt he needed to be single and that he had lost himself and needed to find himself. We do go to the same school, so I see him out most weekends. About a month after the breakup he stated hooking up with a girl with the same last name as me. Not only do we have the same last name but were involved in a lot of the same activities on campus as well as other things. She's the only person in our entire grade with the same last name as me. Not only does he kiss her out but he makes sure that I see. It's gotten to the point where they actively follow me around. If I go downstairs or upstairs at the bar within two minutes they're there too- kissing infront of me. Keep in mind were seniors in college and most people don't kiss at the bar anymore. Why does he do this? He ended things and I've left him alone since the breakup I haven't contacted him or tried to make him jealous or anything, so why does he insist on trying to hurt me?
Ic1 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 Good thing you're not with him now if he's capable of such! How do they know what bar you're at and when? Is it a campus bar?
BC1980 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 He probably wants attention since you haven't tried to contact him since the breakup or begged for him back.
PegNosePete Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 Print off some large numbers, glue them to boards, and take them out with you. When he's performing in front of you, grade the performance. Get your friends to do the same. I'm sure his new squeeze will be totally appreciative of 4 people across the room holding up score boards like they're judges at the kissing olympics or something! 1
Author congrats19 Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 Everyone goes to the same bars at my school- its a smaller school only about 1000 people in my senior class.
Author congrats19 Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 He probably wants attention since you haven't tried to contact him since the breakup or begged for him back. He said he needed his space though... And that's what I've given him. I loved him and I told him I would've done anything to fight for the relationship and he didn't want to do that so I've walked away. I'm trying to move on with my life but why does he insist on tearing me down?
stillafool Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 It may all just be a coincidence that you guys are at the same place at the same time. Also I doubt if he would have picked this girl with the same last name as yours if she were ugly. I doubt also that his new gf would go along with trying to make you jealous. Maybe you are reading too much into this. If not, stop frequenting places you know they might be.
mightycpa Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 So my ex and I were together for 4 years(we're now 22 and finishing college). Long story short he broke up with me out of nowhere for no real reason. He said he just felt he needed to be single and that he had lost himself and needed to find himself. We do go to the same school, so I see him out most weekends. About a month after the breakup he stated hooking up with a girl with the same last name as me. Not only do we have the same last name but were involved in a lot of the same activities on campus as well as other things. She's the only person in our entire grade with the same last name as me. Not only does he kiss her out but he makes sure that I see. It's gotten to the point where they actively follow me around. If I go downstairs or upstairs at the bar within two minutes they're there too- kissing infront of me. Keep in mind were seniors in college and most people don't kiss at the bar anymore. Why does he do this? He ended things and I've left him alone since the breakup I haven't contacted him or tried to make him jealous or anything, so why does he insist on trying to hurt me?Why? Why? Why? I'm so sick of WHY. Does it really make a difference if he's doing it because he's a prick, or he's immature, or she's making him do it, or whatever? Of course not! Focus on the action, not the motivation! How big is this college that you two have to end up at the same bar? I'm assuming that a person who does this cannot be reasoned with. Even so, it seems to me the answer is easy. You just need to find a boy that you can stomach making out with, bring him along to the college's only bar, and when they start going at it, step up right next to them and show them how it's done. It can be a stranger, but for maximum effect, I'd suggest your ex's best friend, or his worst enemy, or his biggest rival in something; a symbol of sorts. Come big, or stay at home! Also, be sure to put the new boy's hand on your chest while you make out, and of course, make sure the ex can see that. Also, at least act like you enjoy it, even if you make the poor bastard go home with blue balls. When your ex bf calls/texts you to complain, just tell him he's called the wrong Smith, and he needs to stop bothering you. Your task is not to make him jealous or angry so that you can begin a dialogue. Your task is for him to see what you see, and then come to the conclusion that he doesn't want to see it anymore, and hopefully he'll make the leap and figure out that you don't want to see it anymore. Maybe after that, he'll stop going to the one bar in town, and his new girlfriend will start doing her pole dancing in private.
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