Angeleyez2583 Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 I guess I'm doing partial NC. It's been only 6 days but it's sooooooo hard, and it hurts so much. I'm trying hard to get involved with things but this sucks. I mean, in order to truely understand my situation (which most of you guys are aware of). I started the NC after: My ex told me he wanted to hang out as friends. Has told me I have changed so much and that i am such a wonderful person. The only reason he broke up with me was because of the drinking (which I completely stopped and got help for). Everything was amazing up until the breakup (he told me he loved me 10 times the night he broke up with me). I had a right to be upset that night. He did something that was very uncharacteristic of him (he was on meds and blacked out and pushed me cuz he wanted a cig). He knows what he did and he appologized. But anyway, if he still wants me in his life I guess he'll call. I have never once been pushy during the breakup or have begged him back. I figure if he really wants to come back he'll let me know. Otherwise I refuse to call/text/email until he calls me. THIS JUST HURTS MORE THEN ANYTHING!
Jadey Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 I have no idea if it gets easier. But well i guess it must do. Its so hard.. I cant even begin to go on about whats hard and blah blah. It just suck. Full stop. I need to get my mind off him!!!! Damn
eastern_mystique Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 Yes, it does get easier. The first week of NC, I felt somewhat panicked, and felt such a strong urge to call him or go see him. Now it's been over 3 weeks, and although I miss him (and love him) as much as I ever did, that urge to contact him is no longer there. You do become accustomed to it. Although, that could be because I know we'll see each other in a few weeks time just to see how we both feel......in any case, he'll be the one contacting me. How I feel is that I miss our relationship and what we had prior to the breakup, what I don't miss is how things have been with us since the breakup. Therefore, NC is fairly easy for me because I don't miss this person who wants to be my friend, I miss the person who was my boyfriend. It's lonely and it's hard, but NC does get easier over time. Whether anything else does, I don't know.
figgurinoutlife Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 I have been doing strict NC for 6 weeks and the first week was very hard, the 3rd week was easiest for some reason and the 4th and 5th week was pure hell. I think when you hit the month mark you start freaking out because you really start to miss them and keep wondering if they are thinking about you still or if they just don't care anymore. 2 days ago I finally got a call from her, but my line was busy when she tried (twice). My call alert on my comp. told me she called while I was on the phone. I have no idea what she wanted, and I was kind of pissed, happy, and frustrated all at the same time that she called because I was doing better. I did not call her back as she doesn't know that I know she called. She has not tried back, so it wasn't an emergency.
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