TheLoveBelow92 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 I feel really weird about this, and that even at this length of time since the break up (5 months) I should be better. I had a "who unfriended me" app on my phone and I haven't used it in a long time since my ex gf deleted me. I just seen her new profile picture through this app, after 2 months of no contact and being blocked just as long and she looked better than Ever skinnier better hair the whole lot really improved herself and she never needed it, she was always a 10 (She was a model blonde and 5 10) ( I hope I dont sound douche saying all this as as cliche as that sounds) and way out of my league. I feel I unimproved in life lost the house car moved back home to the parents and she went out got a personal trainer a new house, car and landed a great job. I broke down quite badly seeing this at home and cant understand it. Im hurt but why! I feel its because seeing the picture was really setting it in motion in my head that she is moving on and like she always has been and is moved on. Im still living in a past relationship all the while im not even a thought to her like she has been to me for so long. It sucks feeling so vulnerable to pain from something you know shouldn't hurt anymore, What a useless sense is having feelings for someone that no longer has them for you. Is this something we all feel or am I an unusual case or for just taking this harder than most. Im nearly 24 and it was only a year long relationship. I have been thinking about therapy as extreme as that move would be because I shouldnt feel so very hurt still. Thoughts everyone?
Lovestinks12 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 Hey man, you're not the only one who feels this way or has felt this way. I can tell you that i got out of 4 year relationship and 7 months passed before I decided therapy. I've been going for 2 weeks and I do feel better when i leave. If you feel stuck and need help then go for it. You're only delaying yourself from moving past this. I wish i did it sooner, but was skeptical at first. It reached the point where I couldn't do it on my own. I honestly don't think its an extreme to seek out extra help. I think its a smart move to realize that you need help. I think you should stop idolizing her and start working on yourself. You can do what shes doing too. I believe at some point we all need to stop playing the victim and start changing things that will better us. 1
Itspointless Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 People who are totally moved on a few months always have my suspicion. They lie or never really loved us in the first place. Sometimes they do not know that they lie to us, as denial is their standard reaction to everything in life. You certainly wont get better by pushing it away either. Therapy isn't something that makes you weak, it usually are people that see that self-knowledge is important who take that step. The paradox of the nature of our selves is that we only really can get to know ourselves with the help of others. 1
Author TheLoveBelow92 Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 Thanks for the help guys its really appreciated 1
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