Bobbi7 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Like if someone just starts talking about their promotions, their new car, new home, their TV without someone asking them? This friend constantly brings up her husbands job-how much he loves his job, his promotions, his hourly wage-16 bucks an hour, and this is without me asking? Geez. Everytime I see her, she talks about this. I could care less about her husbands job-in all honestly its not like he's an engineer or some CEO! And post that he makes 16 bucks an hour on facebook???? Cmon-who does not? What's the fine line between sharing exciting news and bragging? 2
Samhain Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Maybe she really just is that impressed that her husband earns $16 an hour so she doesn't have to $16 an hour is only about £10 or 14 Euro, which is probably just about average wage after the countries national minimum wage. It's good that he loves his job because she sounds like she has some serious plans for that $16 an hour! Serious though, it's not bragging to be proud of a loved ones accomplishments or to be happy that they love their job, but there is a brag-factor when it is spoken about excessively. 3
Author Bobbi7 Posted December 3, 2015 Author Posted December 3, 2015 If I posted my brand new car, my brand new phone, ps4, new house on facebook would that be bragging?
Samhain Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 I'm not sure if you can class posting something newly acquired on social media as bragging. Sharing the aspects of your life is pretty much what it's for to most people. But to excessively refer to new things and money etc after already having mentioned them once is what I'd consider bragging. 2
Samhain Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 I know a few people who brag. I just take no notice, because to me, that just means they have some social ineptitude that can only be filled by them feeling that their possessions is what makes them important.
Blanco Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Like if someone just starts talking about their promotions, their new car, new home, their TV without someone asking them? This friend constantly brings up her husbands job-how much he loves his job, his promotions, his hourly wage-16 bucks an hour, and this is without me asking? Geez. Everytime I see her, she talks about this. I could care less about her husbands job-in all honestly its not like he's an engineer or some CEO! And post that he makes 16 bucks an hour on facebook???? Cmon-who does not? What's the fine line between sharing exciting news and bragging? There are much worse things that could happen to a person than to be with someone who was proud of them. Most people I know either dislike or hate their job, so yeah, I do think it's noteworthy when someone genuinely likes what they do. It's exciting and I'm sure it's invigorating to be with someone who isn't doom and gloom every day they have to go to work.
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 It sounds like she is really proud of him!
Ms. Faust Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 What it sounds like to me: $16/hour with new house, new car, new phones, new electronics = a lot of new debt. I suppose it can be done with proper money management and a lot of overtime, but materialistic people tend to have trouble with spend and impulse control in my experience. Do you have an idea how much the wife makes? 1
Samhain Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 What it sounds like to me: $16/hour with new house, new car, new phones, new electronics = a lot of new debt. I suppose it can be done with proper money management and a lot of overtime, but materialistic people tend to have trouble with spend and impulse control in my experience. Do you have an idea how much the wife makes? My guess, some minimum wage job or even more likely none at all.
Author Bobbi7 Posted December 4, 2015 Author Posted December 4, 2015 What it sounds like to me: $16/hour with new house, new car, new phones, new electronics = a lot of new debt. I suppose it can be done with proper money management and a lot of overtime, but materialistic people tend to have trouble with spend and impulse control in my experience. Do you have an idea how much the wife makes? Her husband brings home the bacon, she can't work for health issues, they both live at her parents house. I was just using examples of bragging on the new house, car, phones. She told me one and a million times before about his promotions, his raise, how much they are in love. I'm like WHY is she telling me this??? Honestly, if they are still living at her parents house, its clear that he doesn't make that much for him to buy a home of their own. I on the other hand, have dated guys that have good paying jobs-make at least $70,000 a year and owns a home, But I'm not one to brag to people about how the guy that I dated owned a house, makes $70,000 a year. Now, if I shared that to her, she would be a tad bit jealous, I just keep my mouth shut. Why even share that with people?
Samhain Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 Her husband brings home the bacon, she can't work for health issues, they both live at her parents house. I was just using examples of bragging on the new house, car, phones. She told me one and a million times before about his promotions, his raise, how much they are in love. I'm like WHY is she telling me this??? Honestly, if they are still living at her parents house, its clear that he doesn't make that much for him to buy a home of their own. I on the other hand, have dated guys that have good paying jobs-make at least $70,000 a year and owns a home, But I'm not one to brag to people about how the guy that I dated owned a house, makes $70,000 a year. Now, if I shared that to her, she would be a tad bit jealous, I just keep my mouth shut. Why even share that with people? I think the question here is, why do you care to this extent? If this was a buddy of mine I'd think "alright, dude can't work due to health reasons, he/she is with someone who can make money and take care of em".. Even if it came across as bragging, I'm not sure I'd give a crap, what gives? 2
Blanco Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 But why are you so flustered by this? I think everyone deals with people who over-share. It's a bit annoying, but hey, you aren't going to adore every person you interact with day-to-day. Pretty easy to just tune them out and move along. edit: beaten to the punch! 1
MidwestUSA Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 If I posted my brand new car, my brand new phone, ps4, new house on facebook would that be bragging? No, you would simply be sharing the same info that others do on social media. If, however, you did it in the spirit of one upsmanship, then yes, it would be looked at as bragging. 2
No Limit Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 I'm happy for someone until the conversation turns into "A pity you don't have that" or gets that "Are you jealous?" undertone. In the case of your friend, I probably wouldn't mind at all. Tell her to keep some of that money her husband makes on the side for proper shoe shopping!
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