snailz Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 Im in love with a lad i cant be with- well at least i dont think i can. we have been friends for a few years and for the past year we have been sleeping together he always tells me he misses me when im not around and that he gets jealous when i see other people- however he doesnt want a relationship because he wants to be alone (saying that in all the time ive known him he has never been in a relationship). About a month ago i finally got over him, i accepted the fact that we couldnt be together and moved on, but then he followed me everywhere, he was so lovely, generally making more of an effort then he ever has done in the past, i was stupid and ended up sleeping with him again, now i feel like im going round in circles and im so annoyed at myself for giving in, i know the way he is with me- one minute he's so loving and the next he's so cold and weird, so why did i give in??? i knew at the time i shouldnt but i still went ahead and did it. I know i care about him so much but how do i stop these feelings? and why wont he let me move on? everytime i go out, hes there, watching me and trying to get close to me, when we are together hes so caring but he doesnt want a relationship- why cant i accept this and get over him? plz help xx
Jadey Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 He doesnt want you to move on. But he doesnt want you. Or atleast now he doesnt want you, or cant have you whatever. I dont know your situation. And he wnats to sleep with you still, he wants casual sex with no strings attached. Dont do it. I suggest NC here. Dont be his doormat! Dont call him, text him, or anything. And deffiently do not have sex with him!! Tell him its all or nothing. Good luck
Author snailz Posted May 30, 2005 Author Posted May 30, 2005 Thankyou for your advice, im really going to try doing that, its just that its hard when he follows me from one place to another, i really think i do need to talk some stuff over, maybe tell how i feel im scared he'll turn round and say that hes been using me for sex and he doesnt feel anything for me at all.
Jadey Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 If he does tll you he only wanted you for sex, atleast youll know. It will hurt yes, but it will be sooooo much better to know! Trust me Ask him what h wants..Sit him down and be blunt about it. If he doesnt want a relationship i suggest NC. PLEASE NO SEX!! Im not sayin that cos im not getting any! LMAO Im saying it cos it just shreaks "im a doormat" Thats what i reckon. If he doesnt want a relationship then i suggest NC myself..
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