Buckeye7 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 So this is the first thread I have started here but here's my story. My ex-girlfriend and I recently broke up after two generally great years. She was smart, ambitious, and very attractive. She plans on going to law school. It was my first serious relationship and it was overall a really great experience. We were the couple that all our friends were jealous of. But I went back to school and moved about 2 hours away. She always talked about how she would miss me so much and the months leading up to me leaving seemed as good as ever. We actually fought a lot less for the most part then we did in the past. But I noticed that when we hung out the last few weeks that I was in town she was glued to her phone. She always had a lot of guy friends that I wasn't really ever threatened by. But she started a new job and got even more male attention than before. I eventually confronted her on how much she was texting other guys and ignoring me even when we were in the middle of hanging out. She of course got all defensive. Eventually this tension lead to a "break" when we started fighting a lot. I actually broke up with her first but regretted it and tried to get her back the next day. This happened when I came home to visit her on the weekend about a month into my semester at school. Even though we were on a break we kept hanging out. We saw each other basically every other week. The "break" turned into a break-up when she admitted she had feelings for a guy at her work. I kinda flipped out and we both just couldn't handle it. But even after we were broken up and she started hanging with this guy we hung out and had sex a few more times (bad idea I know). Amazingly, she called me one night and told me I was right about this guy and he didn't really care about her just like I had told her last time we hung out. She texted me the next night telling me how much she loved me and hinted at getting back together. I told her I would think about it and we could talk next time I saw her in person. But absolutley destroyed me by telling me the next weekend when I visited that the same night that she texted me that she loved me she hung out with ANOTHER guy and started falling for him. To make matters worse this is a guy we both know. At this point I got angry and this essentially ended things for good. Basically, she has a lot of self-esteem and body image issues. she can certainly be overly emotional at times. But despite her flaws we actually were great together for most of the relationship. she was crazy about me and I felt the same way. I'm worried I won't find anything or anyone like this again. Am I being stupid/ridiculous for thinking this?
d0nnivain Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 In the immediate aftermath of a break up, you feel down on yourself & on life. Everything looks bleak because you are in a bad place. Candidly, this won't be your most fun holiday season ever & things may very well suck emotionally through Spring. You need to take some time to process what happened; to grieve; to lick your wounds. that is all part of the healing process. But then a day will come alone & you won't feel crummy. Soon after a pretty girl with smile at you & light up your whole world again. Give it some time. You will love again.
Author Buckeye7 Posted December 5, 2015 Author Posted December 5, 2015 Thanks. I might now have explained things in the most clear and concise manner. I guess one of the worst parts about it is the new guy she is with is rich and much more established than I am at this point since I choose to go back to school. So basically this has brought out a lot of self-esteem issues in me in addition to the heartbreak of not having the love of my life. She always said that I eas the best relationship she ever had...which I do believe. But she also said it would take her a long time to move on after me...and she already is on your second guy in a couple months. It feels terrible
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