JohnEarly Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Hello guys... Me and my girlfriend we're going through a "bad phase", where i kinda broke up with her like 3 times in 3 weeks, because there is times that i just ignore the facts and what happened and everything goes ok. Anyways, the 1st time we broke up for like some days, she said she was starting feeling ok like the last day... So.. I think it will happen again right now am i right? I mean, there is times of the day when im OK with the break up too.. Am i screwing this whole thing with those bull****s? Because i really wanna stay with her, NOT FOR NOW BUT, i want to. But im afraid she might realize she is ok without me (and she will for sure), is there any possibility i might lose her with those breaking up bull****s? Because i know likes me but.. I think she's also able to be happy without me you know...
Lostinlovexx Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 I'm trying hard to get my ex back after breaking up with her when I didn't want it. It was immature and alcohol had a lot to do with it. Any major fight and I always done the break up thing stupidly. I've found since that who in the right mind would want to be in a relationship like that?! She needs to trust you to give her security and stability. My advice now is to work on YOU to ensure it doesn't happen again. Don't promise her it won't unless you've convinced yourself it's not going to happen. I know now within myself I wouldn't do it again, but it took a few month for the realisation to kick in.
sandylee1 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 If my BF broke up with me 3 times in 3 weeks. ... I'd make the decision that it's not meant to be. I don't like having my emotions messed around with. 5
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 If my BF broke up with me 3 times in 3 weeks. ... I'd make the decision that it's not meant to be. I don't like having my emotions messed around with. I second this. That's the kind of thing you can expect teenagers to do not adults for heaven's sake. Yeah, I'd learn to live without you after the first break-up. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Hello guys... Me and my girlfriend we're going through a "bad phase", where i kinda broke up with her like 3 times in 3 weeks, because there is times that i just ignore the facts and what happened and everything goes ok. Anyways, the 1st time we broke up for like some days, she said she was starting feeling ok like the last day... So.. I think it will happen again right now am i right? I mean, there is times of the day when im OK with the break up too.. Am i screwing this whole thing with those bull****s? Because i really wanna stay with her, NOT FOR NOW BUT, i want to. But im afraid she might realize she is ok without me (and she will for sure), is there any possibility i might lose her with those breaking up bull****s? Because i know likes me but.. I think she's also able to be happy without me you know... Absolutely, especially if she is smart. You're not ready for a relationship if you're pulling stunts like that. 2
Qboro90 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Individuals and couples who use breaking up as a weapon or solution anytime they get into an argument, disagreement, or are upset at the other person are still completely immature and won't be able to have a successful lasting healthy relationship until they learn how to remove that as an option. Everyone knows those couples (more prevalent in hs/college but immaturity has no age limit) that break up then get back together over and over and over. Gets to the point where when your friends are told "Jessica and I broke up" everyone's eyes roll and you get no sympathy because you're like the boy who cried wolf. If your first reaction is to break up with someone when you're angry at them or upset about something then that's something you need to change for the sake of your future relationships. You're seeing it now where eventually You're gonna break up with someone thinking its a punishment for them but they'll call your bluff and realize they do not want to date you anymore and you'll never get them back. If you want do date this girl, reconcile right now and apologize for what you've been doing the last 3 weeks. Explain that you realize you need to change the way you react instead of breaking up with her over and over, the two of you need to communicate maturely and openly. If you can't, they stay broken up. 2
BlueIris Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Stop getting back together. You've broken up with her 3 times already. Find someone you don't want to break up with.
Author JohnEarly Posted December 3, 2015 Author Posted December 3, 2015 You guys have all the reason in the world but... I sort of explained me wrong, its not like we broke up 3 times, we broke up once, and since that we contacted each other in a peacefull old-school way back when we were ok like 3 times... We broke up only once
Amelie1980 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 She will be perfectly fine without you. Do you really think she is incapable of happiness without you? She may be far happier without someone who keeps breaking up with her.
mrldii Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Sorry, OP, but that IS the risk one runs when breaking up with someone...whether it be 3 times in 3 weeks, 3 times in 3 years, or the first time in 30 years... the other person may just discover their life IS better without ya! Learn from it, and learn a better way to resolve disagreements/conflicts rather than staging what YOU believe to be "mock" break-ups. 2
Wewon Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Hello guys... Me and my girlfriend we're going through a "bad phase", where i kinda broke up with her like 3 times in 3 weeks, because there is times that i just ignore the facts and what happened and everything goes ok. Anyways, the 1st time we broke up for like some days, she said she was starting feeling ok like the last day... So.. I think it will happen again right now am i right? I mean, there is times of the day when im OK with the break up too.. Am i screwing this whole thing with those bull****s? Because i really wanna stay with her, NOT FOR NOW BUT, i want to. But im afraid she might realize she is ok without me (and she will for sure), is there any possibility i might lose her with those breaking up bull****s? Because i know likes me but.. I think she's also able to be happy without me you know... This may be the best thing for both of you. You want someone that wants you, not someone that is needy for you or simply afraid to not be with you. You should also consider why you keep going through this whole yo-yo thing that you two have going.
TaraMaiden2 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Hello guys... Me and my girlfriend we're going through a "bad phase", where i kinda broke up with her like 3 times in 3 weeks, because there is times that i just ignore the facts and what happened and everything goes ok. Anyways, the 1st time we broke up for like some days, she said she was starting feeling ok like the last day... So.. I think it will happen again right now am i right? I mean, there is times of the day when im OK with the break up too.. Am i screwing this whole thing with those bull****s? Because i really wanna stay with her, NOT FOR NOW BUT, i want to. But im afraid she might realize she is ok without me (and she will for sure), is there any possibility i might lose her with those breaking up bull****s? Because i know likes me but.. I think she's also able to be happy without me you know... Oh, so you expect her to hang around and wait for you to change your mind - again? What kind of manipulative, controlling bull is THAT?? In her shoes I'd take you back to the kindergarten where I found you and tell your mummy to look after you a bit longer until you're mature enough to even speak to a nice lady, let alone date her.... 1
pteromom Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 If you want to be with her, don't break up with her. Of course she would be ok without you. Just as you would be ok without her. A romantic relationship isn't necessary for survival. If you want to be with her, you need to quit playing games and go tell her. 2
Amelie1980 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 (edited) Sorry, OP, but that IS the risk one runs when breaking up with someone...whether it be 3 times in 3 weeks, 3 times in 3 years, or the first time in 30 years... the other person may just discover their life IS better without ya! Learn from it, and learn a better way to resolve disagreements/conflicts rather than staging what YOU believe to be "mock" break-ups. Only with one ex I have felt genuine sorrow at the life we could have had together. I do think I was happier with him in my life than out. But he ended it and there is nothing I can do. But even with him I can see he had MANY flaws and who knows if i would have been happy with him long term. As for the rest I can honestly say.....I am better off without them. I dont get why dumpers feels this way...they want you gone and worry that the dumpee may not miss you. wtaf? Edited December 3, 2015 by Amelie1980
Meli22 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 If you broke up with her three times I HOPE she IS okay without you. I had an ex who broke up with me 3 times. The third time I never looked back, just sayin' . It killed him too. 1
mightycpa Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 What if she finds out she is ok without me?If? Really? 1
Ic1 Posted December 4, 2015 Posted December 4, 2015 their life IS better without ya! John, you're a selfish person. One can even tell from only reading the thread's title! self·ish adjective (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure.
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